Part 2: Happiness-Saving yourself

-Choosing to be yourself
If you stop trying to figure out how to do things the way other people want you to do them, you get to listen to the little voice inside your head that wats to do things a certain way. Then, you get to be you.
Listen and absorb,  but don't try to emulate
Don't I know it.  But what is my priority
There's a constant struggle to say no when your genes always want to say yes.Yes to-sugar. Yes tobstaying in this relationship. Yes to alcohol. Yes to-drugs.Yes.yes.yes. Our bodies don't know how to say no.
If you eat fatty meal and you throw some sugar in, the sugr is going to deiver hunger and fat is going to deiver calories and you are just going to binge. The combination of sugar and fat together is really deadly.
Most fit and heathy people focus moreon what they at than jow mucj. Quality control is easier than quantity control.

Ironically, fasting  (from a low-carb/paleo base) is easier than portion control. Once the body detects food.
- Exercise

Usually the most common is "I don't have time"I don't have time"is just another way of saying "It's not a pri-ority." What you really have to do is say whether it is a priority.
The important thing is to do something every day. It doesn't matter what it is. The bestworkout for you is one you're excited enough to do every day.
If you make the easy choices right now, your overall life will be a lot harder.
-Meditation + Mental strength
I learned a very important lesson from this: most of pur suffering comes from avoidance.

Your body saying it's cold is differen than your mind saying it's cold. Acknowledging yourbody saying it's cold. Look at it. Deal with it. Accept it, but don't mentay suffers over it.
Too much sugar leads to a hevy body, and too may distractions lead to a heavy mind
What I find 90% of the thoughts are fear-based. The other 10 percent may be desire-based.
If you top obsessing your own story, you will realie we are really are up maslo's hierachy of needs, andlife is pretty good.
Now you are an adult with some distance,time and space from previous events, and you can just resolve them Youvcan be much more objective about how you view them.

Over time,you will resolve a lot of these deep-seated unresolved things you have in your mind. Once they're resolved, there will come a day when you sit down to meditate, and you'll hit a mental "inbox zero."When you open your mental "email"and there are none,that is a pretty amazing feeling.
All of society does this to some extent. People chasing thrillein action sports or flow states or orgasms-any of these states people strive for are people trying to get out of their own heads. They re trying to get away from the voice in their heads the overdeveloped sense of self.
Why am I so out of countrol? Awareness alone calms you down
The ability to singularly focus is related to the ability to lose yourselfand be present, happy, and (ironically) more effective
I'm trying to stay in awareness mode and not activatthe monkey mind, which is always worried, frightened, anamious. It serves incredible purpose, but I try not to activate the monkey mind until i need it.
As you get older, the sum of preferences you've aceumulated is very, very large. These habitual reactions end up as rnaway freight trains controlling your mood. We should control ourown moods. Why don't we study how to control our mods?

The mind itself is a muscle-it can betraned and conditioned.
  
-Choosing to build yourself
Again, habits are everything -everything we are
To have a peace of mind, you have to have peace of body first.
When you really at to change, you just chang. but mot of us don't really want to chage-we do't wat to go through the pan just yet. At least recognie it, be aware of it, andgiveyourself a smaller chage you can actually carry out


- Choosing to grow yourself
"Set up systems,not goals. "Use your judgment to figure out what kinds of environments you can thrive in, and then create an environment around you so you're statistically likely tosucceed.
-Choosing to free yourself
 Freedom from expections,  anger, employment,  uncontrolled thinking,  
Anger is a loss of control over the situation. Anger is a contract you make with yourself to be in physical and mental and emotional turmoil until reality changes.
Anger is a way to signal as strongly as you can to the other party you're capable of violence.
The hardest thing is not doing what you want-it's knowingwhat you want.