第44页 dedication to reality

穷则思变，然而安逸久了，遇到改变的第一本能反应是抵制和抗拒。

那天，我在央求，不要改变，不要丢下我一个人面对难以收拾的烂摊子。回头冷静下来，才意识到，不经历，就没成长，也许是时候走出两个人的默契配合了，也许我该独自去解决一些问题了，以我自己的方式，不必妥协，不必迁就。这不是我期待了很久的事吗？突然发生的时候，却躲避。
The vantage point from which we view the world is constantly and quite rapidly changing.......We are daily bombarded with new information as to the nature of reality.......▲The process of making revisions, particularly major revisions, is painful, sometimes excruciatingly painful.▼ And herein lies the major source of many of the ills of mankind.

What happens when one has striven long and hard to develop a working view of the world, a seemingly useful, workable map, and then is confronted with new information suggesting that that view is wrong and the map needs to be largely redrawn? The painful effort required seems frightening, almost overwhelming.▲ What we do more often than not, and usually unconsciously, is to ignore the new information.▼ Often this act of ignoring is much more than passive........Rather than try to change the map, an individual may try to destroy the new reality.