第10页 My most fundamental life principle

懂得了每个人都会犯错，都有弱点，不同的是人们如何去面对和解决问题，我发现犯错非常美，错误就像一个迷宫，错误就像宝石，只有我解决了这个问题我才能解开迷宫，得到宝石，也就是将来我会犯更少错误。我懂得了做每一个错误可能反映了了真实的我（或其他人）做错了，如果我能了解什么是错的，我可以学习如何变得更有效。我学会了和我的问题，错误和弱点搏斗，他们让我更强壮。此外，我懂得了摔跤的疼痛也让我和我周围的人会更加感激将来得到的成功。
真实的世界不是穿着名牌衣服的男女，带着他们完美的常青藤学校的毕业证书，考试全部拿A， 我碰到很多出生很好的人，他们都犯过很多错误，有很多的缺点，他们看到自己的缺点和不足，找到如何适应和解决这些问题，因此他们从优秀变得更优秀。当我们开始面对现实，尤其是那些难以面对的问题，他们才学到了更多东西，这些事我周围认识的成功的人。
简单的来说，要完完全全的诚实，尤其是面对我们的问题和缺点，他们让我们快速的成长和带领我们到达我们想去的地方。
别人认为学习别人告诉我们的是取得成功的方法，我认为成功是自己寻找自己想要的和如何取得你想要的。
别人认为得到答案比提出问题更重要，我认为提出问题比得到答案更重要，因为提出问题会导致更多的学习。
别人认为失败很糟糕，我相信失败很好，因为我相信多数的学习都来自于失败和我们如何面对它们。
别人认为找到一个人的缺点是坏事，我认为它很好，因为他是朝向如何面对它们和不让他们挡住你的路的方法。
别人认为痛苦很糟糕，我认为痛苦让你更强壮。
I learned that everyone makes mistakes and has weaknesses and that one of the most important things that differentiates people is their approach to handling them. I learned that there is an incredible beauty to mistakes, because embedded in each mistake is a puzzle, and a gem that I could get if I solved it, i.e., a principle that I could use to reduce my mistakes in the future. I learned that each mistake was probably a reflection of something that I was (or others were) doing wrong, so if I could figure out what that was, I could learn how to be more effective. I learned that wrestling with my problems, mistakes, and weaknesses was the training that strengthened me. Also, I learned that it was the pain of this wrestling that made me and those around me appreciate our successes.
I learned that the popular picture of success—which is like a glossy photo of an ideal man or woman out of a Ralph Lauren catalog, with a bio attached listing all of their accomplishments like going to the best prep schools and an Ivy League college, and getting all the answers right on tests—is an inaccurate picture of the typical successful person. I met a number of great people and learned that none of them were born great—they all made lots of mistakes and had lots weaknesses—and that great people become great by looking at their mistakes and weaknesses and figuring out how to get around them. So I learned that the people who make the most of the process of encountering reality, especially the painful obstacles, learn the most and get what they want faster than people who do not. I learned that they are the great ones—the ones I wanted to have around me. 
In short, I learned that being totally truthful, especially about mistakes and weaknesses, led to a rapid rate of improvement and movement toward what I wanted.  
While most others seem to believe that learning what we are taught is the path to success, I believe that figuring out for yourself what you want and how to get it is a better path.
While most others seem to believe that having answers is better than having questions, I believe that having questions is better than having answers because it leads to more learning.
While most others seem to believe that mistakes are bad things, I believe mistakes are good things because I believe that most learning comes via making mistakes and reflecting on them. 
While most others seem to believe that finding out about one’s weaknesses is a bad thing, I believe that it is a good thing because it is the first step toward finding out what to do about them and not letting them stand in your way. 
While most others seem to believe that pain is bad, I believe that pain is required to become stronger.