第1页 From random places

  
“Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.”
“One of the best things you can do for an introverted child is to work with him on his reaction to novelty. remember that introverts react not only to new people, but also to new places and events. so don't mistake your child's caution in new situations for an inability to relate to others. he's recoiling from novelty or overstimulation, not from human contact. As we saw in the last chapter, introversion extraversion levels are not correlated with either agreeableness or the enjoyment of intimacy. introverts are just as likely as the next kid to seek others company, though often in smaller doses.”
“People who pass us on the street can't know that we're clever and charming unless we look it.”
“Or at school you might have been prodded to come "out of your shell"- that noxious expression which fails to appreciate that some animals naturally carry shelter everywhere they go, and that some humans are just the same.”
“Those who worked with these leaders tended to describe them with the following words: quiet, humble, modest, reserved, shy, gracious, mild-mannered, self-effacing, understated.”
Proactive employees who take advantage of opportunities in a fast-moving environment, without waiting for a leader to tell them what to do, are increasingly vital to organization success. To understand how to maximize these employees’ contributions is an important tool for all leaders. It’s also important for companies to groom listeners as well as talkers for leadership roles.
The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk. Use your natural powers---of persistence, concentration, insight, and sensitivity -- to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems, make art, think deeply. Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you supposed to. Make a deal with yourself that you'll attend a set number of social events in exchange for not feeling guilty when you beg off"
Find what your contribute to the society. 
Communication Gap
“meeting of 2 personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” 
When should you act more extroverted?
- Self-monitoring traits 
- Have a “restorative niche”- place to get back to self
- Make Free Trait Agreement with yourself for how long you would like to have these traits 
Extrovert vs introverts-
- Extrovert: pay more attention to reward seeking
- Introverts- pay more attention to warning signs