无明对《The Mistress Manual》的笔记(1)

notex

《The Mistress Manual:The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance》
Lorelei
5个笔记


◆  The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance

>> The Mistress draws her ideas and fantasies from a broad range of possibilities. There are five basic fantasy archetypes, but (since you’re the Domme), you don’t have to adhere to any one of them. The patterns are, in fact, the basic male fantasies. It’s helpful to understand them, but you need not feel bound by them. You can choose the activities and attitudes you like from any of these roles – and yes, it is possible to do the kind of heavy leather scene an Amazon enjoys, but with the tenderness of a Nursemaid.《情妇》从各种可能性中汲取灵感和幻想。有五种基本幻想原型，但（因为你是主导者），你不必坚持其中任何一种。事实上，这些模式是基本的男性幻想。了解它们是有帮助的，但你不必受它们的限制。你可以从这些角色中选择你喜欢的活动和态度——是的，你可以做亚马逊人喜欢的那种重皮革场景，但要有保姆的温柔。1.The affectionate Nursemaid, who teases, clysters, and chastises her diapered charge.1. 亲切的保姆，她逗弄、排便和责罚她的尿布宝宝。2.The stern Governess, who spanks, paddles, and canes a naughty schoolboy.2. 严厉的女教师，她鞭打、拍打和用藤条打一个淘气的男孩。3.The harsh and exacting Queen, who demands constant service and punishes her sissy maid.3. 严厉而苛刻的女王，她要求不断的服务，并惩罚她的娘娘腔女仆。4.The cruel Amazon, who mocks, dominates, and torments her sex slave.4. 残忍的亚马逊，她嘲笑、支配和折磨她的性奴隶。5.The Goddess, who commands worship of her female beauty and divinity.5. 女神，她命令崇拜她的女性美和神性。

>> The transformation is uniquely liberating. Letting your wicked and powerful inner self out to play is more than a sure cure for stress. In Jungian terms, it is a way of integrating your Shadow, the hidden and rejected self.

>> A New and Powerless Self. But what pleasure does the male find in his embarrassing and frequently painful role? He too has a Shadow, a self he cannot acknowledge or express in ordinary life. Boys mustn’t cry, or wear frilly clothes, or be passive; they have to be strong, silent, macho men. His role as sissy maid or well-spanked schoolboy or diapered baby permits him to express forbidden emotions and wear taboo clothing. If he simply wants, openly and sincerely, to surrender his will to a woman, that need, as intense and undeniable as thirst, can finally be slaked in scene

>> The pleasures of the submissive are the polar opposites of (and therefore closely akin to) the pleasures of the Mistress. It is a truism that all polarities express the opposite ends of a single principle or idea. Like yin and yang, darkness and light, submissive male and dominant female need one another to be complete.臣服者的快乐是（因此与）女主人的快乐截然相反的（因此与）女主人的快乐的极端对立面。这是一个不言而喻的道理，即所有两极都表达了一个单一原则或思想的对立面。就像阴和阳、黑暗和光明一样，臣服的男性和占主导地位的女性需要彼此才能完整。Moreover, the two are not simply opposites. Even the most severe Mistress takes pleasure not only in compelling her slave’s submission, but also in fulfilling his fantasies. Likewise, the most subservient slave enjoys not only surrendering to his Mistress’s power, but also gratifying his own hidden desires. In short, however absolute the lady’s command may seem, it is always tempered with a concern for her submissive’s satisfaction and well-being. And likewise, however abject a slave may appear, he is in some sense in control of the situation, for if he refused to respond, the Dominatrix would no longer be in charge. The two roles are symbiotic.此外，两者并不只是对立的。即使是最严厉的女主人，也不仅享受迫使奴隶屈服的快感，还享受满足他幻想的快感。同样，最顺从的奴隶不仅享受屈服于女主人的权力，还享受满足自己隐藏的欲望的快感。简而言之，无论女主人的命令看起来多么绝对，她总是会关心顺从者的满足和福祉。同样，无论奴隶看起来多么卑微，他在某种意义上都是控制局势的，因为如果他拒绝回应，女主人就无法控制局势。这两个角色是共生的。Moreover, a submissive never starts out powerless. He must have power in order to hand it over to his Mistress, who holds it in a blind trust until he needs it back. That may be at the end of a scene, after renegotiation, or even at the end of a lifestyle relationship

>> Although all women start life as daughters, not mothers, they must someday move forward from being a powerless child to being a woman in authority. Becoming a Dominatrix is one way to celebrate your innate female strength. Indeed, every woman, whether she becomes a mother or chooses not to bear children, must experience the transformation into a female authority in order to become an adult and truly her own Mistress. (This is true even of female submissives, who find their greatest joy in surrender; choosing to surrender, choosing their own Dominant, understanding and fulfilling their own sexuality, is a position of genuine power – power surrendered, but nevertheless consciously known, used, felt.)