ㄐㄗ对《Daring Greatly》的笔记(1)

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. For example, when I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame- based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose
I know how seductive it is to use the celebrity culture yardstick to measure the smallness of our lives. And I also understand how grandiosity, entitlement, and admiration-seeking feel like just the right balm to soothe the ache of being too ordinary and inadequate.
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anger (which is a secondary emotion, one that only serves as a socially acceptable mask for many of the more difficult underlying emotions we feel)
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Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.
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? It’s not the lack of professing that gets us in trouble in our relationships; it’s failing to practice love that leads to hurt.
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It doesn’t matter if the group is a church or a gang or a sewing circle or masculinity itself, asking members to dislike, disown, or distance themselves from another group of people as a condition of “belonging” is always about control and power.
. He’s not a real person with human needs, but a “great and powerful” projection of what a man is supposed to be. Lonely, exhausting, and soul-sucking.
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Perfectionism is not self-improvement. Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval
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A twenty-minute walk that I do is better than the four-mile run that I don’t do. The imperfect book that gets published is better than the perfect book that never leaves my computer. The dinner party of take-out Chinese food is better than the elegant dinner that I never host.
“There’s a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”
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We can’t selectively numb emotion. Numb the dark and you numb the light.
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Cool is one of the most rampant forms of cynicism.