I still remember why I purchased this book in the first place; I learnt about it one day somewhere near Mother's Day while surfing at Oprah.com (http://www.oprah.com/book/Please-Look-After-Mom-by-Kyung-sook-Shin?editors_pick_id=29973
What struck me most was the word from a critic, who said that one would never look at his/her mom the way he/she did after reading the book. I then wondered what could be this powerful.
Till the moment I finished reading the book, I collapsed there, staring blankly into the distance, trying to absorb the story, the emotion, the love, the misunderstanding, the guilt, and the epiphany from the family members.
Too many times in the book, I find the image of my mom mingled with the Mom in the book. My mom, too, as a full-time housewife, has devoted the best part of her life to the family. Whether she likes it or not, she has been the most loyal employee, since there is simply no quitting here unlike any other jobs.
I remember more than once, I asked Mother, does she ever regret doing this role as a mother and a wife without her own career to be proud of. What she said gave me this unbearable sour in my nose. "Dear, I like this role. You are my greatest asset."
I told mom numerous times that how embarrassed I am hearing her bragging about my "achievements" as loud as she could to her friends, relatives, neighbors, and other acquaintances. And she would repeat them as many times as she likes, ignoring my protests. I think I come to understand it now.
Other times, I would impatiently tell mom that she should read more books and etc. when she always seems to eat up her words on self-improvement and time-management. In good mood, mom would joke that I looked like the Mom; when she grew tired of it, she would retort that she has sacrificed everything for me and I have no filial piety that traditional Chinese hold most dear to. Now I realize that I have been too harsh on her; and that I don't understand her enough.
What's harder than being a mother? I can never know, well, at least for a while.
I would recommend the book to any one, especially the daughters, who are always too harsh to their old-fashioned moms, until when they, too, become the Mom category.