Since life poses an endless series of problems, life is always difficult and is full of pain as well as joy. Yet it is in this whole process of meeting and solving problems that life has its meaning. Problems are the cutting edge that distinguishes between success and failure. Problems call forth our courage and out wisdom. It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually.
People: fear the pain. Procrastinate , hoping they will just go away..even take drugs to help us to temporarily forget it.
WE CAN'T SOLVE LIFE'S PROBLEMS EXCEPT BY SOLVING THEM.
大部分感觉对生活impotent的人有some desire to partially or totally escape the pain of freedom, and therefore, some failure, partial or total, to accept responsibility for their problems and their lives. They feel impotent cuz they gave their power away. If they are to be healed, they must learn that the entirety of one's adult life is a series of personal choices, decisions. If they can accept that totally, then they become free people. To the extent that they do not accept this they will forever feel themselves victims
One measure of one person's greatness is the capacity for suffering. The best decision-makers are those whoa re willing to suffer the most over their decisions but still retain their ability to be decisive. .
YOU Must have something in order to give it up. You cannot give up anything you have not already gotten.If you give up winning without ever have won, you are thwere you are at the beginning: a loser. You must forge your self an identity before you can give it up. You must develop an ego before you can lose.
Falling in love is specifically a sex-linked erotic experience. We do not love with our children though we may love them very deeply. We fall in love only when we are consciously or unconsciously sexually motivated. The experience of falling in love is invariably TEMPORARY. This is to say that the feeling of ecstacy lovingness that characterizes the experience of falling in love always passes. The bloom of romance always fades.
Dependency is not love, it's parasitisism. It 's a matter of necessity rather than love. Love is the free exercise of choice.
Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.
Passive dependency has its genesis in lack of love. The inner feeling of emptiness from which passive dependent people suffer is the direct result of their parents' failure to fulfil their needs for affection, attention and care during their childhood.
Courage is not the absence of fear; it is the making of action in spite of fear, the moving out against the resistance engendered by fear into the unkown and into the future.
The highest forms of love are inevitably totally free choices and not acts of conformity.
情绪就像奴隶。对待情绪2个常见的问题： 一是无discipline,无规矩，无限制，无方向，而且不挑明谁是主人。那样情绪（奴隶）会停止工作并反客为主占领主人的东西。这样主人发现自己成了奴隶的奴隶。二是（在guilt-ridden neurotic常见）obsessed with the fear 奴隶会失控所以就施压过严，结果奴隶真的就造反了。
正确的方式应该是： Treats his feelings(slaves) with respect, nurturing them with good food, shelter and medical care, listening and responding to their voices, encouraging them, inquiring as to their health, yet also organizing them, limiting them, deciding clearly between them, redirecting them and teaching them, all the while leaving no doubt as to who is the boss. This is the path of healthy self-discipline.