"A child can cry one moment and run off to play the next"
That's something we should also learn from kids.It's time for me to forgive the mistakes dads made.
"One of the things he told me was that my desire to be liked by everyone would hold me back.He said that when you want to change things,you can't please everyone.If you do please everyone,you aren't making enough progress."
i like this chapter---"it's a jungle gym,not a ladder" as this metaphor is surprising.
"There's only one way to get to the top of a ladder,but there are manys to get to the top of a jungle gym"
"..careers do not need to be mapped out from the start.
"I never thought about waht i wanted to be,but i thought a lot about what i wanted to do."
"letting the other side make the first offer is often crucial to achieving favorable terms."
I always do this so when i saw this comparison,i smiled."SEEK AND SPEAK YOUR TRUTH"
"Compare these two statements:You never take my suggestions seriously. and i feel frustrated that you have nto responded to my last four emails,which leads me to believe that my suggestions are not that important to you. Is that so?"
"Thanks,but you must have ideas for me on what more i could have done.""How i can do better""What am i doing that i don't know?""What am i doing that i don't see?"
"I have also learned the hard way that being open to hearing the truth means taking responsibility for mistakes."
At work,"...by asking what i could do to help them achieve thei goals"
"When people are open and honest,thanking them publicly encourages them to continue while sendinga powerful signals others. "
"Humor can be an amazing tool for delivering an honest message in a good-natured way."
"Sharing emotions builds deeper relationships.Motivation comes from working on things we care about.It aslo comes from working with people we care about."
Something about partner....I think it's beneficial too
"..if he gets up to deal with the diaper before being asked,she should smile even if he puts that diaper on the baby's head."
"There were many times when our daughter was more easily consoled by me...It's really hard to listen to your baby cry while your struggling husband with no breasted tries deperately and sometimes awkwardly to comfort her.David was insistent that rather than handing the baby to me when she was cryinh,we allow him to comfort her even if it took longer.It was harder in ther short run,but it absoluterly paid off when our daughter learned that Daddy could take care of her as well as Mommy."
"When looking for a life partner,my advice to women is date all of them:the bad boys,the cool boys,the commitment-phobic boys,the crazy boys.But do not marry them.The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands.When it comes time to settle down,find someone who wants equal partner.Someone who thinks women should be smart,opinionated,and ambitious.Someone who value fanirness and expect or,even better,wants to do his share in the home."
A small conversation touches my heart....
"Also,most employed fathers interact with other grownn-ups all day,while mothers at home are often starved for adult conversation by evening.I know a woman who gave up a career....and always insisted that when her husband got home from work,he asked her,"How was your day?before he launched into an account of his own."
"More women lean in to thier careers,more men need to lean in to their families....We need more men to sit at the table...the kitchen table."
"Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence."
"A feminist is someone who believes in social,political,and economic equality of the sexes."