When it comes to gender, it seems to make others uncomfortable to use the word feminism or feminist. To be honest, I used to say I'm a feminist and proud of being one. But I noticed and realized that quite often when I talk about gender and feminism, it makes my friends, colleagues, usually males, ex-boyfriend uninterested and close the conversation rapidly. When I talk the subject to my female friends or on the internet, I find some females take feminism as a privilege or as a bottom power, as to in the book, the power to use sexual attraction as a way to get things from men. These things really upset me. So I use the words less frequently and do not want to talk about it either.
But this book, actually a speech script of TED, waken me up and show me the right way to talk about feminism again.
As it is actually a speech script to massive audience, rather than an academic study work or a self-help book for women, the language is easily comprehended and the case it uses is from normal people. If you watch the video on TED, you will find the response from audience is quite active, with several times of applause and laughing. But don't get it the wrong way, it is not shallow at all. In fact, I find the aspects the author takes are very thorough. For example, does it make women subordination right because of culture? No, because culture does not make people, people make culture. A lot of things was right to do because of traditional culture but not now. If it is true that the full humanity of women is not our culture, then we can and must make it our culture. A lot of other examples are included in the book. It feels like each line in the book is so powerful and reasonable, every one should be a punchline.
Although the concept seems like very aggressive and ambitious, the author is not all about anger, resent and taking charge of everything. She just want to be what she is, want every woman to be what she is, instead of pretending something else, something the society expect from a girl. We get it, plenty of girls does not want to take charge, like being gentle and soft, want to be attractive from men's eyes. It's totally OK, totally not anti-feminism. But we care about whether it is because of personal choice or because of education and social expectations. We care about men pay the bill because of love and generosity as a friend, not because of showing masculinity.
There are so many things should be changed. But still, we, feminists, do not want to force anybody to surrender or yield power. We simply want to change the subconscious mindset that is not suitable and not right today.
Yes, I'm still a feminist. Although it still probably makes others uncomfortable sometimes, I must say that I'm feminist. Changes always mean uncomfortable, but it will get better.