I'm trying to unlearn many lessons of gender I internalized while growing up.
Some people ask, "Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights?, or something like that?" Because that would be dishonese. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general - but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem was not about being human, but specifically about being a femal human.
I was once talking about gender and a man said to me, "Why does it have to be you as a woman? Why not you as a human being?" This type of question is a way of silening a person's specific experiences.
(Same as being a black man, a disabled person, etc.)
Some people will say, "Oh, but women have the real power: bottom pewer,' (This is a Nigerian expression for a woman who uses her secuality to get things from men.) But bottom power is not pwer at all, because the woman with bottom power is actually not powerful; she just has a good route to tap another person's power. And then what happens if the man is in a bad mood or sick or temporatily impotent?
当女性利用自己的身体/sex获取利益，这是公平的吗？如果我们相信女性对自己的身体有自由使用的权力，那么她有意识地利用自己所拥有的资源换取更高的职位、机会等行为，并不是她轻贱自己的表现，而与行贿更为接近——违反道德、打破公平竞争的行贿。此时，她的身体作为一种资源，为她带来了一定的权力主动改变游戏规则（unfairly）（so-called bottom power, but still, it is still tapped power from someone else）。另一方面，如果一个女性有能力为得到某个机会公平竞争，却由于自己的性别无法参与，唯一提供给她的途径是出卖身体，那么此时这个女性是被剥削和残酷地对待的。她被排除在公平竞争的机制之外，被迫地接受另一种游戏规则，不论她是否参与了这个掌权者（通常是男性）的游戏，或者是否得到利益，她都是powerless的。
Some people will say a woman is subordinate to men because it's our culture. But culture is constantly changing...... Culture does not make people, people make culture.