What is more likely to happen is that a person will go through what Geoffrey Gorer (1965) calls mummification , that is, retaining possessions of the deceased in a mummified condition ready for use when he or she returns. (查看原文)
Another way that people protect themselves from reality is to deny the meaning of the loss. In this way, the loss can be seen as less significant than it actually is. It is common to hear statements like “He wasn’t a good father,” “We weren’t close,” or “I don’t miss him.” Some people immediately jettison clothes and other personal items that remind them of the deceased. Removing all reminders of the deceased is the opposite of mummification and minimizes the loss.
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非常实用的一本书