As in her previous book, Why Men Love Bitches, Argov does not use the word "bitch" in a pejorative way, but rather "to describe a strong woman who has her own identity and is secure with who she is." And while encouraging women to be strong, independent and inscrutable is sound advice, the motivation behind this advice-to keep his interest-makes for a headache-inspiring contrad...
As in her previous book, Why Men Love Bitches, Argov does not use the word "bitch" in a pejorative way, but rather "to describe a strong woman who has her own identity and is secure with who she is." And while encouraging women to be strong, independent and inscrutable is sound advice, the motivation behind this advice-to keep his interest-makes for a headache-inspiring contradiction. Fortunately, Argov takes readers step-by-step through her process, including numerous "Relationship Principles" that keeps her concepts clear ("Relationship Principle 35: Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control."). Though the generalizations Argov uses to describe her pre-bitch audience can at times be condescending, and her goals are more about acting-rather than believing-that you don't need a man to feel complete, the behavior she encourages is healthy and useful, even outside the realm of husband-hunting. Taken more as a Bitch's Guide to Life-the word "relationship," after all, doesn't necessarily imply romance-this is a solid self-help.
Kara is a perfect example of why smart, confident women come out on top. Very early on, her fiance tried to give her his two cents on how she should dress. She was leaving for a meeting, and he told her to wear a dress istead of the pantsuit she had on. Then he told her she was wearing too much makeup. What the nice girl would have done is run out and buy a new wardrobe. But Kara playfully put him in check:" Listen here, Versace. This outfit has always been fine. And I haven't had any complaints about the makeup either. But if you'd like, I'll let you know when I'm wearing this in advance. That way, if you don't want to see me in it, you don't have to come over."
Instead of "where's my ring" or "why won't you marry me." She's thinking:"What's the advantage of having this guy around?" "How ... (查看原文)
After all, there will always be someone there to tell you that you aren't attractive enough, perfect enough, or that you didn't come from the right side of the tracks. True confidence is born when you don't believe what anyone tells you about yourself. (查看原文)
只需要看ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE就足够了。归结起来就是：maintain independence, wealth, health, attraction.
be a mental challenge.
don't overcompensate, don't give up yourself.
Never lost in any relationship, test it and grow up with it.when a woman is trying too hard, a man will ususally test to see how hard she's willing to work for it. he'll start throwing relationship fr...Never lost in any relationship, test it and grow up with it.when a woman is trying too hard, a man will ususally test to see how hard she's willing to work for it. he'll start throwing relationship frisbees, just to see how hard she'll run and how high she'll jump. (展开)
4 有用 Hello_Xixi 2014-07-10 15:35:00
只需要看ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE就足够了。归结起来就是：maintain independence, wealth, health, attraction. be a mental challenge. don't overcompensate, don't give up yourself.
0 有用 purr 2010-02-14 21:40:02
easy to understand anyway
0 有用 小彻 2010-09-08 08:46:28
kind of useful.
0 有用 安小泊 2013-03-19 08:53:51
有的观点极端，但是总的来说，是教导女人要做一个独立的人。
0 有用 重玖. 2014-07-22 12:54:53
Never lost in any relationship, test it and grow up with it.when a woman is trying too hard, a man will ususally test to see how hard she's willing to work for it. he'll start throwing relationship fr... Never lost in any relationship, test it and grow up with it.when a woman is trying too hard, a man will ususally test to see how hard she's willing to work for it. he'll start throwing relationship frisbees, just to see how hard she'll run and how high she'll jump. (展开)