出版社: Scribner
副标题: Parents. Children and the Search for Identity
出版年: 2012-11-13
页数: 962
定价: USD 18.00
装帧: Paperback
ISBN: 9781476706955
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From the National Book Award–winning author of The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression comes a monumental new work, a decade in the writing, about family. In Far from the Tree, Andrew Solomon tells the stories of parents who not only learn to deal with their exceptional children but also find profound meaning in doing so.
Solomon’s startling proposition is that diversity is w...
From the National Book Award–winning author of The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression comes a monumental new work, a decade in the writing, about family. In Far from the Tree, Andrew Solomon tells the stories of parents who not only learn to deal with their exceptional children but also find profound meaning in doing so.
Solomon’s startling proposition is that diversity is what unites us all. He writes about families coping with deafness, dwarfism, Down syndrome, autism, schizophrenia, multiple severe disabilities, with children who are prodigies, who are conceived in rape, who become criminals, who are transgender. While each of these characteristics is potentially isolating, the experience of difference within families is universal, as are the triumphs of love Solomon documents in every chapter.
All parenting turns on a crucial question: to what extent parents should accept their children for who they are, and to what extent they should help them become their best selves. Drawing on forty thousand pages of interview transcripts with more than three hundred families, Solomon mines the eloquence of ordinary people facing extreme challenges. Whether considering prenatal screening for genetic disorders, cochlear implants for the deaf, or gender reassignment surgery for transgender people, Solomon narrates a universal struggle toward compassion. Many families grow closer through caring for a challenging child; most discover supportive communities of others similarly affected; some are inspired to become advocates and activists, celebrating the very conditions they once feared. Woven into their courageous and affirming stories is Solomon’s journey to accepting his own identity, which culminated in his midlife decision, influenced by this research, to become a parent.
Elegantly reported by a spectacularly original thinker, Far from the Tree explores themes of generosity, acceptance, and tolerance—all rooted in the insight that love can transcend every prejudice. This crucial and revelatory book expands our definition of what it is to be human.
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Andrew Solomon writes about politics, culture, and health. He lives in New York and London. He has written for many publications--such as the New York Times, The New Yorker and Artforum--on topics including depression, Soviet artists, the cultural rebirth of Afghanistan, Libyan politics, and deaf culture. He is also a Contributing Writer for Travel and Leisure. In 2008, he was ...
Andrew Solomon writes about politics, culture, and health. He lives in New York and London. He has written for many publications--such as the New York Times, The New Yorker and Artforum--on topics including depression, Soviet artists, the cultural rebirth of Afghanistan, Libyan politics, and deaf culture. He is also a Contributing Writer for Travel and Leisure. In 2008, he was awarded the Humanitarian Award of the Society of Biological Psychiatry for his contributions to the field of mental health. He has a staff appointment as a Lecturer in Psychiatry at Cornell Medical School (Weill-Cornell Medical College).
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原文发在了我的公众号 “成长合作社:, 也在豆瓣做一下记录。 如果说大多数父母的养育都有些许波澜,那么另一些家庭经过的,是悬崖峭壁。 造成不同养育体验的原因众多,但早就有研究者提出,父母和孩子之间的差异越大,养育面临的挑战可能就越大。常见的比如害羞安静的父母生... (展开)读后感 | Road Less Traveled
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1 有用 小星星 2017-02-16 19:43:12
如果不是社会的非难,我不觉得我的不同有什么沮丧。一本不同者和其他身份不同者探索身份的书。好书为什么没有中文版?
1 有用 Pagliacci 2021-04-04 14:45:51
Andrew Solomon下得一些结论我并不能完全赞同,但是几百个case还是让我大开眼界。我们生活的社会,生孩子前对父母没有任何要求(想想吧,开车前都还要考驾照),一些爹妈在孩子生出来后根本无法承担生育后果(非经济方面),于是造就了那么多不被爱的小孩。如果你为人父母,却感叹怎么生了这么个“玩意”,就去看这本书;如果你还没有小孩,但想以后做个合格的父母,也去看这本书,但我估计看罢以后就不想生了哈... Andrew Solomon下得一些结论我并不能完全赞同,但是几百个case还是让我大开眼界。我们生活的社会,生孩子前对父母没有任何要求(想想吧,开车前都还要考驾照),一些爹妈在孩子生出来后根本无法承担生育后果(非经济方面),于是造就了那么多不被爱的小孩。如果你为人父母,却感叹怎么生了这么个“玩意”,就去看这本书;如果你还没有小孩,但想以后做个合格的父母,也去看这本书,但我估计看罢以后就不想生了哈哈哈 (展开)
6 有用 W 2017-02-06 06:48:40
别转头,就盯着那伤口。因为伤口是光透进来的地方。
4 有用 阿萌 2016-05-28 00:09:27
An apple nevet falls far from the tree, 最终说不定会变成the tree never grows far from the apple, 一本关于平行身份(horizontal identity)的书,其中有几百个不寻常家庭的访谈记录,也有作者本人的心路历程。这些abnormal的身份可能是唐氏综合症或侏儒症这样的天生生理残疾,也可能是强暴受孕或是有变性需求... An apple nevet falls far from the tree, 最终说不定会变成the tree never grows far from the apple, 一本关于平行身份(horizontal identity)的书,其中有几百个不寻常家庭的访谈记录,也有作者本人的心路历程。这些abnormal的身份可能是唐氏综合症或侏儒症这样的天生生理残疾,也可能是强暴受孕或是有变性需求的孩子,每个家庭都有过不同程度的挣扎,虽然书中结果正面的例子居多,但从large scale上来看,能figure out如何过上相对正常生活,如何平衡这种身份差异的家庭应该仍是少数。作者本人的倾向表达得很明显,有些arguement稍显重复,但受访者,也包括作者自己的故事本身仍是最动人之处。 (展开)
0 有用 么么揶揄 2015-01-28 09:18:15
五颗星完全不够。值得反复读的书。
0 有用 TicheSeo 2021-12-11 15:55:08
读的比较潦草。可能因为没孩儿吧。书还是可以读的。
0 有用 心台 2021-10-26 00:58:22
太值得一看。听障,侏儒,唐氏,自闭症,精神分裂症,神童,被强奸后生下的孩子,罪犯,跨性别;每个章节都能自成一本书,每一个话题都醍醐灌顶。一直感慨,人性真tm复杂!! 比如,家长是否要给有听力障碍的小孩做人工耳蜗植入手术?这样的手术是否意味着让ta无法再融入听障人士的群体?让孩子从小学习手语,拥抱听障人士的身份,还是尝试一切手段让ta学会读唇语和说话,融入所谓的“主流社会”?听障的小朋友是不是应该... 太值得一看。听障,侏儒,唐氏,自闭症,精神分裂症,神童,被强奸后生下的孩子,罪犯,跨性别;每个章节都能自成一本书,每一个话题都醍醐灌顶。一直感慨,人性真tm复杂!! 比如,家长是否要给有听力障碍的小孩做人工耳蜗植入手术?这样的手术是否意味着让ta无法再融入听障人士的群体?让孩子从小学习手语,拥抱听障人士的身份,还是尝试一切手段让ta学会读唇语和说话,融入所谓的“主流社会”?听障的小朋友是不是应该被听障的大人收养?这些对孩子一辈子有巨大影响的决定,父母有权力做决定吗? (展开)
0 有用 J 2021-08-15 10:52:03
我实在是不想读了。太压抑了。太厚了。
0 有用 依兰树 2021-05-07 11:16:08
有声书41个小时。听吐了。最后两章听不动了.....研究攻克疾病的另一面 优生优育的另一面。都是活生生努力挣扎想活的人。到底要怎么看待special ability 怎么看待LGBTQ 怎么看待juvenile criminal。这些在作者的眼里都是有共通点的Horizontal traits。每种情况都分别讨论了下 有需求的可以节选的读
1 有用 Pagliacci 2021-04-04 14:45:51
Andrew Solomon下得一些结论我并不能完全赞同,但是几百个case还是让我大开眼界。我们生活的社会,生孩子前对父母没有任何要求(想想吧,开车前都还要考驾照),一些爹妈在孩子生出来后根本无法承担生育后果(非经济方面),于是造就了那么多不被爱的小孩。如果你为人父母,却感叹怎么生了这么个“玩意”,就去看这本书;如果你还没有小孩,但想以后做个合格的父母,也去看这本书,但我估计看罢以后就不想生了哈... Andrew Solomon下得一些结论我并不能完全赞同,但是几百个case还是让我大开眼界。我们生活的社会,生孩子前对父母没有任何要求(想想吧,开车前都还要考驾照),一些爹妈在孩子生出来后根本无法承担生育后果(非经济方面),于是造就了那么多不被爱的小孩。如果你为人父母,却感叹怎么生了这么个“玩意”,就去看这本书;如果你还没有小孩,但想以后做个合格的父母,也去看这本书,但我估计看罢以后就不想生了哈哈哈 (展开)