As men and women find that they can no longer rely on old roles and formulas to get along, intimate relationships call for a new kind of honesty and awareness, a willingness to let go of old patterns and cultivate new capacities. "Journey of the Heart" shows how we can rise to this challenege by learning to use whatever difficulties we face in relationships as opportunities to ...
As men and women find that they can no longer rely on old roles and formulas to get along, intimate relationships call for a new kind of honesty and awareness, a willingness to let go of old patterns and cultivate new capacities. "Journey of the Heart" shows how we can rise to this challenege by learning to use whatever difficulties we face in relationships as opportunities to expand our sense of who we are and deepen our capacity to connect with others. This is the path of conscious love.
We perpetuate these conditioned ways of perceiving the world though repetitive stories we tell ourselves about "the way things are." These kinds of stories are mental fabrications, judgments or interpretations that put what is happening into a familiar framework. Usually we do not recognize these storeis as our own invention; instead, we believe that they represent reality. The less conscious we are of how they control us, the more they keep us locked into old patterns of behaviour.
The greatest obstacles in relationships are often our stories about how we think relationships should be. "If you love someone, you should always keep them happy... you should always want to be there... you should set aside your anger." They narrow our options and keep us stuck in very tight boxes. (查看原文)
An even more thorough, far-reaching method of cultivating awareness and seeing through the whole storytelling function of the mind is the practice of mindfulness meditation.
Since it is difficult to practice awareness when we are suddenly beset by the emotional crosscurrents of relationship conflicts, a regular meditation practice can be especially helpful. It can teach us how to step out of the tangle of our emotions and stories, and relate more directly to what is actually happening. (查看原文)
0 有用 Lucia 2017-11-25 08:14:49
很多太模糊，但是主旨挺坚定：没这么容易，别老觉得很容易
0 有用 Lucia 2017-11-25 08:14:49
很多太模糊，但是主旨挺坚定：没这么容易，别老觉得很容易