Mothers Who Can't Love

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• A mother with NPD, however, has never evolved beyond these early yearnings —— she clings to them because they're defenses that mask her deep feelings of inadequacy. She's excessively dependent on other people's opinions for her sense of identity and self-estee —— they're her mirro —— and she's driven by the need to get others' approval. So she moves through her life preoccupied with proving (or at least arguing) that she's more beautiful, more brilliant, more talented, more desirable than other women. That, in her mind, entitles her to special treatment, and she doesn't take it well, to putit mildly, when people don't agree. She's jealous, envious —— and highly defensive when challenged. As you might guess, her sense of empathy is highly impaired; she has very little interest in other peop... (查看原文)

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• Narcissism wasn't recognized as a personality disorder until 1980. Before that, it was common to play down even extreme narcissism, waving off the behavior with labels like self-centered, conceited, or egomaniacal. Now we realize that, while severe narcissists are not craz —— that is, disconnected from reality and unable to function —— they have a different circuitry board than others. No one knows exactly why that is, and mental health professionals have been struggling for years to figure out what creates this personality disorder. For a time it was believed that early trauma or over indulgence led those with the disorders to create a false self, but new evidence supports the idea that the causeis primarily genetic or physiological. (查看原文)

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