The Four Loves 四種愛 By C.S.Lewis 很久沒試過一口氣讀完整本書，提筆寫下讀後感也是這幾年以來的第一次。 之前讀Satir的時候，她說，沙維亞的模式建立在愛之上。我想，很多我接觸過的社會工作手法也都是建立在愛之上。那麼愛究竟是什麼呢？路易斯在本書裏將愛分爲親愛，友...
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The first distinction I made was therefore between what I called Gift-love and Need-love. The typical example of Gift-love would be that love which moves a man to work and plan and save for the future well-being of his family which he will die without sharing or seeing; of the second, that which sends a lonely or frightened child to its mother's arms. 我首先將愛劃分為給予之愛與需求之愛。給予之...
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The first distinction I made was therefore between what I called Gift-love and Need-love. The typical example of Gift-love would be that love which moves a man to work and plan and save for the future well-being of his family which he will die without sharing or seeing; of the second, that which sends a lonely or frightened child to its mother's arms.
But man's love for God, from the very nature of the case, must always be very largely, and must often be entirely, a Need-love. This is obvious when we implore forgiveness for our sins or support in our tribu- lations. But in the long run it is perhaps even moreapparent in our growing for it ought to be grow- ing awareness that our whole being by its very nature is one vast need; incomplete, preparatory, empty yet cluttered, crying out for Him wlio can untie things that are now knotted together and tie up things that are still dangling loose. I do not say that man can never bring to God anything at all but sheer Need-love. Exalted souls may tell us of a reach beyond that. But they would also, I think, be the first to tell us that those heights would cease to be true Graces, would become Neo-Platonic or finally diabolical illusions, the moment a man dared to think that he could live on them and henceforth drop out the element of need. "The highest," says the Imitation, "does not stand without the lowest." It would be a bold and silly crea- ture that came before its Creator with the boast "I'm no beggar. I love you disinterestedly." Those who come nearest to a Gift-love for God will next moment,even at the very same moment, be beating their breasts with the publican and laying their indigence before the only real Giver. And God will have it so. He addresses our Need-love: "Come unto me all ye that travail and are heavy-laden," or, in the Old Testament, "Open your mouth wide and I will fill it."
人對上帝的愛就其本質而言，必定在很大程度上始終是需求之愛，往往還純粹是需求之愛。這點在我們祈求罪得赦免、患難中祈求幫助時顯得尤為明顯。從長遠來看，隨著意識的不斷成熟，我們也許會更清楚地發現：我們整個的存在本質上就是一個巨大的需求；我們的存在不完整，尚處初始階段，空虛而混沌；我們向上帝呼求，唯有他能夠解開糾結、拾綴鬆散之物。我並不是說，除純粹的需求之愛外，人不能帶給上帝什麼。高尚之人也許會告訴我們，他們已經超越了需求之愛。但是我想，他們也會第一個告訴我們，一旦一個人膽敢認為自己能永遠處於那樣的境界，從此拋開需求的成分，那樣的境界便不復是真正的恩典，將成為新柏拉圖主義的幻想，甚至最終淪為邪惡的幻想。《效法基督》中說到，「沒有最低者，最高者便站立不住（The highest cannot stand without thelowest）。」一個在造物主面前誇口說「我不是乞丐，我無私地愛你」的受造物，是一個愚蠢狂妄的受造物。那些對上帝的愛最接近給予之愛的人，很快、甚至當即就會與那個稅吏一起捶胸，將自己的貧乏敞露在唯一真正的給予者面前。上帝會讓我們這樣。針對我們的需求之愛，他說：「凡勞苦擔重擔的人，可以到我這裡來。」在舊約中，他也說：「你要大大張口，我就給你充滿。」
Every human love, at its height, has a tendency to claim for itself a divine authority. Its voice tends to sound as if it were the will of God Himself. It tells us not to count the cost, it demands of us a total commitment, it at- tempts to over-ride all other claims and insinuates that any action which is sincerely done "for love's sake" is thereby lawful and even meritorious. That erotic love and love of one's country may thus attempt to "become gods" is generally recognised. But family affection may do the same. So, in a different way, may friendship.
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5 有用 Wenqian Li 2014-06-27 18:07:39
C．S．路易斯在《四种爱》一书中，指出古今之间的一个差异在于，古人看重友爱而贬低私情，而现代人则视爱情为宗教。甚至，今人对物和动物的爱，也比友爱的分量更重。在路易斯看来，友爱并非本能的自然延伸，但它以个体性为前提，是自由选择的结果，因此而值得为其辩护。没有友爱的社会，更利于独裁。
1 有用 NaviGator 2010-04-14 10:22:17
很多论述引起深思。lewis说的冷静，可是，生命里的各种纠结，叫人如何安然度过此生？主啊，只有在你怀中，我才得享安宁。
7 有用 Sabrina 2010-01-02 22:42:02
再给十个星都不过分那！！！
1 有用 owhale 2010-12-27 16:04:22
不要试图定义爱，但要知道哪些不是爱。
16 有用 🫀Psyche 2013-10-17 20:35:39
这本书在路上跟了我一个月，今天终于断断续续读完，里面的论述就如Lewis每一本书那样给我带来无穷的震撼。人类的虚伪和自大完全的让人口上称爱却从来不爱，人类用语言搅乱这种无上的语言，却还试图给自己找借口。愿这本书能帮我更加接近我想要得到和给予的爱。哈利路亚，以马内利。
0 有用 Markos 2022-05-13 13:26:53
内容上想打四星的。隔了几年看，有很多不认同了。主要是Lewis的方法论始终是从普遍恩典起始的，这里面暗含的假设就是存在一种独立于神的逻辑或辩证思路。打五星是因为他文笔太好了，哈哈哈
0 有用 土匀 2022-05-01 14:27:27
友爱和爱情写得很精彩，另外两章看困了，部分论证不太精密。
0 有用 珍惜 2022-02-14 20:46:22
写了《纳尼亚传奇》的C.S.Lewis最大的成就其实应该是神学。这本五年前读到的书让我觉得那时才完成了爱的启蒙。小朋友也到了懵懵懂懂的年纪，借着今年情人节给她讲了《四种爱》这本书的精华，希望她长大以后能够体会到慈悲之爱的美好、基督之爱的甘甜。
0 有用 Chen 2022-02-02 01:10:40
仁爱没读 有点啰嗦
0 有用 William Yang 2022-01-25 05:04:04
似乎“爱情”的那个章节与其他章节相比有些奇怪，或许是对路易斯的感情生活有了了解之后的主观臆测吧。（临睡前将美式咖啡当成可乐喝了一口，然后就有了这么一次“好书读罢东方晓”的经历。🙁）