How did your family handle emotions?
by humiliating and joke
my dad specifically, even my mom showed angrily.
Me and mom through conversation easily.
me and dad have 0 deep conversation
Which feelings were easily discussed,and which did people pretend weren't there?
the job-wise and investment-wise were easy to discuss.
About my personal life, we both pretend everything is OK.
What was your role in the emotional life of the family?
middle one, vulnerable one.Same as mom.
What emotions you find it easy to acknowledge and express,and with whom?
Emotions about my thinking of my personal life .with my Mom.
Which emotions you find it more difficult.
My emotion about dad.marriage.and work as I don't want them to worry .
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当然情绪的话题并不是在所有的谈话中都有效，正如人们常说的，如果不想惹麻烦，就千万不要吵醒睡觉的狗，不幸的是如果你这方面的技巧不够娴熟，贸然引入这个话题的后果就是你打扰的可能就不止是正在睡觉的狗，而是所有的狗了，甚至包括那些让你夜不能寐的狗。lol who let the dogs out~ woo woof~
2019-02-07 12:05
当然情绪的话题并不是在所有的谈话中都有效，正如人们常说的，如果不想惹麻烦，就千万不要吵醒睡觉的狗，不幸的是如果你这方面的技巧不够娴熟，贸然引入这个话题的后果就是你打扰的可能就不止是正在睡觉的狗，而是所有的狗了，甚至包括那些让你夜不能寐的狗。lol who let the dogs out~ woo woof~
Summarize steps in handling a difficult conversation. 1. walk through the three conversations: what happened, intention/impact, contribution; feelings; identity 2. check your purpose and decide whether to raise it 3. start from the third story 4. explore their story and yours: listen, expressing (acknowledge and clarify), and be persistent 5. problem-solving
2018-10-01 18:49
Summarize steps in handling a difficult conversation.
1. walk through the three conversations: what happened, intention/impact, contribution; feelings; identity
2. check your purpose and decide whether to raise it
3. start from the third story
4. explore their story and yours: listen, expressing (acknowledge and clarify), and be persistent
5. problem-solving
What is a powerful set of moves to take the lead in a conversation? Explain - reframe, listen and name the dynamic - reframe: be persistent to reframe the problem into the correct direction - listen: let the other person feel heard and understood - name the dynamic: make the trouble explicit What does problem solving consist of? - gather information and test your perceptions - say what is still...
2018-10-01 04:01
What is a powerful set of moves to take the lead in a conversation? Explain
- reframe, listen and name the dynamic
- reframe: be persistent to reframe the problem into the correct direction
- listen: let the other person feel heard and understood
- name the dynamic: make the trouble explicit
What does problem solving consist of?
- gather information and test your perceptions
- say what is still missing
- say what would persuade you
- ask what would persuade them
- ask their advice
- invent options
- ask what standards should apply
- if you still can't agree, consider your alternatives
structure of difficult conversations said vs not said: the gap The "What happened" conversation: truth, intention, blame The "Feeling" conversation: core The identity conversation learning conversation
2018-09-20 18:07
structure of difficult conversations
said vs not said: the gap
The "What happened" conversation: truth, intention, blame
当然情绪的话题并不是在所有的谈话中都有效，正如人们常说的，如果不想惹麻烦，就千万不要吵醒睡觉的狗，不幸的是如果你这方面的技巧不够娴熟，贸然引入这个话题的后果就是你打扰的可能就不止是正在睡觉的狗，而是所有的狗了，甚至包括那些让你夜不能寐的狗。lol who let the dogs out~ woo woof~
2019-02-07 12:05
当然情绪的话题并不是在所有的谈话中都有效，正如人们常说的，如果不想惹麻烦，就千万不要吵醒睡觉的狗，不幸的是如果你这方面的技巧不够娴熟，贸然引入这个话题的后果就是你打扰的可能就不止是正在睡觉的狗，而是所有的狗了，甚至包括那些让你夜不能寐的狗。lol who let the dogs out~ woo woof~
当然情绪的话题并不是在所有的谈话中都有效，正如人们常说的，如果不想惹麻烦，就千万不要吵醒睡觉的狗，不幸的是如果你这方面的技巧不够娴熟，贸然引入这个话题的后果就是你打扰的可能就不止是正在睡觉的狗，而是所有的狗了，甚至包括那些让你夜不能寐的狗。lol who let the dogs out~ woo woof~
2019-02-07 12:05
当然情绪的话题并不是在所有的谈话中都有效，正如人们常说的，如果不想惹麻烦，就千万不要吵醒睡觉的狗，不幸的是如果你这方面的技巧不够娴熟，贸然引入这个话题的后果就是你打扰的可能就不止是正在睡觉的狗，而是所有的狗了，甚至包括那些让你夜不能寐的狗。lol who let the dogs out~ woo woof~
Summarize steps in handling a difficult conversation. 1. walk through the three conversations: what happened, intention/impact, contribution; feelings; identity 2. check your purpose and decide whether to raise it 3. start from the third story 4. explore their story and yours: listen, expressing (acknowledge and clarify), and be persistent 5. problem-solving
2018-10-01 18:49
Summarize steps in handling a difficult conversation.
1. walk through the three conversations: what happened, intention/impact, contribution; feelings; identity
2. check your purpose and decide whether to raise it
3. start from the third story
4. explore their story and yours: listen, expressing (acknowledge and clarify), and be persistent
5. problem-solving
What is a powerful set of moves to take the lead in a conversation? Explain - reframe, listen and name the dynamic - reframe: be persistent to reframe the problem into the correct direction - listen: let the other person feel heard and understood - name the dynamic: make the trouble explicit What does problem solving consist of? - gather information and test your perceptions - say what is still...
2018-10-01 04:01
What is a powerful set of moves to take the lead in a conversation? Explain
- reframe, listen and name the dynamic
- reframe: be persistent to reframe the problem into the correct direction
- listen: let the other person feel heard and understood
- name the dynamic: make the trouble explicit
What does problem solving consist of?
- gather information and test your perceptions
- say what is still missing
- say what would persuade you
- ask what would persuade them
- ask their advice
- invent options
- ask what standards should apply
- if you still can't agree, consider your alternatives
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Summarize steps in handling a difficult conversation. 1. walk through the three conversations: what happened, intention/impact, contribution; feelings; identity 2. check your purpose and decide whether to raise it 3. start from the third story 4. explore their story and yours: listen, expressing (acknowledge and clarify), and be persistent 5. problem-solving
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