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Malcolm Gladwell 出版社: Little, Brown and Company 副标题: What We Should Know about the People We Don't Know 出版年: 2019-9-10 页数: 400 定价: USD 30.00 装帧: Hardcover ISBN: 9780316478526
Malcolm Gladwell, host of the podcast Revisionist History and #1 bestselling author of The Tipping Point, Blink, Outliers, David and Goliath, and What the Dog Saw, offers a powerful examination of our interactions with strangers---and why they often go wrong.
How did Fidel Castro fool the CIA for a generation? Why did Neville Chamberlain think he could trust Adolf Hitler? Why a...
Malcolm Gladwell, host of the podcast Revisionist History and #1 bestselling author of The Tipping Point, Blink, Outliers, David and Goliath, and What the Dog Saw, offers a powerful examination of our interactions with strangers---and why they often go wrong.
How did Fidel Castro fool the CIA for a generation? Why did Neville Chamberlain think he could trust Adolf Hitler? Why are campus sexual assaults on the rise? Do television sitcoms teach us something about the way we relate to each other that isn't true?
Talking to Strangers is a classically Gladwellian intellectual adventure, a challenging and controversial excursion through history, psychology, and scandals taken straight from the news. He revisits the deceptions of Bernie Madoff, the trial of Amanda Knox, the suicide of Sylvia Plath, the Jerry Sandusky pedophilia scandal at Penn State University, and the death of Sandra Bland---throwing our understanding of these and other stories into doubt. Something is very wrong, Gladwell argues, with the tools and strategies we use to make sense of people we don't know. And because we don't know how to talk to strangers, we are inviting conflict and misunderstanding in ways that have a profound effect on our lives and our world. In his first book since his #1 bestseller, David and Goliath, Malcolm Gladwell has written a gripping guidebook for troubled times.
Malcolm Gladwell has been a staff writer at The New Yorker since 1996. He is the author of The Tipping Point, Blink, Outliers, and What the Dog Saw. Prior to joining The New Yorker, he was a reporter at the Washington Post. Gladwell was born in England and grew up in rural Ontario. He now lives in New York.
You believe someone not because you have no doubts about them. Belief is not the absence of doubt. You believe someone because you don't have enough doubts about them.
I'm going to come back to the distinction between some doubts and enough doubts, because I think it's crucial. Just think about how many times you have criticized someone else, in hindsight, for their failure to spot a liar. You should have known. There were all kinds of red flags. You had doubts. Levine would saythat's the wrong way to think about the problem. The right question is: were there enough red flags to push you over the threshold of belief? If there werent,then by defaulting to truth you were only being human (查看原文)
But we are failing to let women know that when they render themselves defenseless, terrible things can be done to them. Young women are getting a distorted message that their right to match men drink for drink is a feminist issue. The real feminist message should be that when you lose the ability to be responsible for yourself, you drastically increase the chances that you will attract the kinds of people who, shall we say, don't have your best interest at heart. That's not blaming the victim; that's trying to prevent more victims. (查看原文)
Gist：不要把自己想得太过复杂并且把别人想得太过简单，大多数人类都会default to truth，有些人会有demeanor和honesty mismatch，我们用表情神态判断人的时候，culture会让我们得到很不同的结论，而且很多时候大家心里想的和表面反应的并不align。最后关于police，作者觉得不该把他们当成超人，应该让他们上更好的training，更加细分职责，让会沟通的人参...Gist：不要把自己想得太过复杂并且把别人想得太过简单，大多数人类都会default to truth，有些人会有demeanor和honesty mismatch，我们用表情神态判断人的时候，culture会让我们得到很不同的结论，而且很多时候大家心里想的和表面反应的并不align。最后关于police，作者觉得不该把他们当成超人，应该让他们上更好的training，更加细分职责，让会沟通的人参与（我也是赞同这样的，这样能减少violence吧）(展开)
1. Had I read this book earlier, I might not have been fooled by a second-hand iPhone seller lately. This is what I thought about when I completed Part Two of this book, especially when the sentences below leapt to the eye: We have a default to truth: our o...
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5 有用 启明君 2019-09-15 13:17:56
大片即视感：从 CIA 双面间谍写到慕尼黑阴谋，从麦道夫写到 Amanda Knox 案，最后也没讲出多大道理，反正作者肯定是写 high 了
12 有用 Inari 2019-09-23 05:42:48
可能scope有点过于大，一本书看下来感觉没有彻底说清问题。不过每个事例单独来看，都有很引人思考的分析。其实最大的读后感是，（至少在美国）跟警察能不打交道就不要打交道，不会有好事发生的
2 有用 ZZ 2019-10-12 10:50:56
他的书一如既往的好看。距离上次他出书已经有相当一段时间了，所以很是期盼。有声书也非常有特色，邀请了其中描写到的人物来参与对话和讲述，参与感很强。这跟作者写完以前的书和这本书之间做了好几期podcast有着密切的关系。所以书本朗读得一点都不生硬。当然我也还是借来了纸质的书，加强阅读。书中的案例都是精心挑选的，从中得到的结论也感觉是水到渠成。问题是，接下来我们这么办？不判断，至少不误判，在和陌生人打交... 他的书一如既往的好看。距离上次他出书已经有相当一段时间了，所以很是期盼。有声书也非常有特色，邀请了其中描写到的人物来参与对话和讲述，参与感很强。这跟作者写完以前的书和这本书之间做了好几期podcast有着密切的关系。所以书本朗读得一点都不生硬。当然我也还是借来了纸质的书，加强阅读。书中的案例都是精心挑选的，从中得到的结论也感觉是水到渠成。问题是，接下来我们这么办？不判断，至少不误判，在和陌生人打交道中，太重要了。 (展开)
1 有用 Viola 2020-01-25 23:52:17
本作表现最好的时候是作者讲了一些曲折有趣的故事（古巴谍战篇还挺有趣的），糟糕的时刻是作者试图用过于简单的观点去解释现实世界十分复杂的问题（几乎是一大半的内容）。实在无法给高分。
3 有用 小米纸是虹膜 2019-12-02 23:31:19
在听所谓enhanced audiobook version. 其实就是一个八小时的大型podcast
0 有用 濯希 2024-04-19 02:14:18 美国
[b] 听完感觉主要观点就一个： 对陌生人不要有想入为主的假设…
0 有用 缝内裤的Kurt 2024-03-05 00:10:22 北京
Gladwell写的书都有一个通病：啰里八嗦。
0 有用 老三 2024-02-07 11:14:52 湖南
default to truth/transpanrency/coupling.
0 有用 猩猩 2024-01-30 15:37:01 上海
道理都懂，有些点也算有用，就真的挺无聊的，还搞什么podcast experience配乐我真是会谢。。。
0 有用 Cree 2024-01-01 14:43:29 美国
Gist：不要把自己想得太过复杂并且把别人想得太过简单，大多数人类都会default to truth，有些人会有demeanor和honesty mismatch，我们用表情神态判断人的时候，culture会让我们得到很不同的结论，而且很多时候大家心里想的和表面反应的并不align。最后关于police，作者觉得不该把他们当成超人，应该让他们上更好的training，更加细分职责，让会沟通的人参... Gist：不要把自己想得太过复杂并且把别人想得太过简单，大多数人类都会default to truth，有些人会有demeanor和honesty mismatch，我们用表情神态判断人的时候，culture会让我们得到很不同的结论，而且很多时候大家心里想的和表面反应的并不align。最后关于police，作者觉得不该把他们当成超人，应该让他们上更好的training，更加细分职责，让会沟通的人参与（我也是赞同这样的，这样能减少violence吧） (展开)