极度成功

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• This is all about establishing relationships, conveying the face that I'm interested in you, and that all the work we do together is in the context of that relationship. It's a narrative - you have to keep it going. It's not unlike a romantic relationship. How often do you tell your partner that you love them? It may be true, but it's still importantn to let them know, over and over. Theis idea - that belonging needs to be continually refreshed and reinforced - is worth dwelling on for a moment. If our brains processed safety logically, we would not need this steady reminding. But our brains did not emerge from illions of years of natural selection because they process safety logically. They emerged because they are obsessively on the lookout for danger. This obsession originates in a s... (查看原文)

  ZZ 2018-04-15 09:24:10

• Building safety isn't the kind of skill you can learn in a robotic, paint-by-numbers sort of way. It's a fluid, improvisational skill - sort of like learning to pass a soccer ball to a teammate during a game. It requires you to recognize patterns, react quickly, and deliver the right signal at the right time. Creating safety is about dialing in to small, subtle moments and delivering targeted signals at key points. - overcommunicate your listening. the key is to draw a distinction between interruptions born of mutual excitement and those rooted in lack of awareness and connection. - spotlight your fallibility early on - especially if you're a leader. "This is just my two cents." "Of coures, I could be wrong here." "What am I missing?" - embrace the messenger - Preview future connection -Ov... (查看原文)

  ZZ 2018-04-16 03:56:20

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