You believe someone not because you have no doubts about them. Belief is not the absence of doubt. You believe someone because you don't have enough doubts about them.
I'm going to come back to the distinction between some doubts and enough doubts, because I think it's crucial. Just think about how many times you have criticized someone else, in hindsight, for their failure to spot a liar. You should have known. There were all kinds of red flags. You had doubts. Levine would saythat's the wrong way to think about the problem. The right question is: were there enough red flags to push you over the threshold of belief? If there werent,then by defaulting to truth you were only being human (查看原文)
But we are failing to let women know that when they render themselves defenseless, terrible things can be done to them. Young women are getting a distorted message that their right to match men drink for drink is a feminist issue. The real feminist message should be that when you lose the ability to be responsible for yourself, you drastically increase the chances that you will attract the kinds of people who, shall we say, don't have your best interest at heart. That's not blaming the victim; that's trying to prevent more victims. (查看原文)
1. Had I read this book earlier, I might not have been fooled by a second-hand iPhone seller lately. This is what I thought about when I completed Part Two of this book, especially when the sentences below leapt to the eye: We have a default to truth: our o...
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0 有用 𝕱𝖗𝖆𝖓𝖈𝖎𝖘𝖏𝖔𝖞𝖊𝖘🐍 2020-08-17 21:44:48
解读版 如果读到书里的例子可能会觉得更有意思 人在面对陌生的人/事/物时都是默认相信，而非怀疑。书里举了一个反例(忘记人名了)意思是这个人默认怀疑，严谨到锱铢必较的感觉，反正作者笔下是反面教材，虽然他举报的一个人确实犯罪，但是由于他什么都要举报反而没人相信，不招人喜欢。 对待陌生人的态度，很多情况是自己已经预先按照自己的设定去揣测对方了，还有一种觉得他人很好懂只有自己难懂的透明幻觉。 于是陌生人之... 解读版 如果读到书里的例子可能会觉得更有意思 人在面对陌生的人/事/物时都是默认相信，而非怀疑。书里举了一个反例(忘记人名了)意思是这个人默认怀疑，严谨到锱铢必较的感觉，反正作者笔下是反面教材，虽然他举报的一个人确实犯罪，但是由于他什么都要举报反而没人相信，不招人喜欢。 对待陌生人的态度，很多情况是自己已经预先按照自己的设定去揣测对方了，还有一种觉得他人很好懂只有自己难懂的透明幻觉。 于是陌生人之间会有误会，严重的会引发冲突 感觉自己一般都能和陌生人相处融洽，可能是因为没有太多一定要与对方如何如何的杂念，放松的去享受与新鲜的碰撞的感觉真的很好。 熟了以后就再看情况吧 (展开)
0 有用 不公正的法官 2022-01-26 13:14:23
1、默认真实效应，跟对方打交道的时候，总是默认对方是诚实的，这样便于有效开展协作；2、耦合效应，任何一个行为都是由一连串事件导致的结果；3、透明假设效应，人总觉得别人是透明的，自己是复杂的，难以被理解；
0 有用 frank78 2022-03-19 12:53:26
陌生人不容易被理解
0 有用 纸上谈兵艺术家 2021-03-31 15:22:57
字体大、行间距合适好评
10 有用 邵三叔 2020-07-28 23:19:42
格拉德威尔的新书，无论是“默认真实”还是“透明假设”或“耦合效应”，核心一个观点：“阿珍，你听说我，我真不是你想象的那样。”
0 有用 土豆咖喱 2022-07-31 14:42:34
其实作者能够逻辑自洽，很多科普书都这样，但是跳脱出特定的环境就不一样了。这些书完全可以合并成一本，不需要出这么多本来赚钱……（其实我们并像我们想象地那么了解陌生人）
0 有用 小池一朵芙蓉 2022-07-25 15:58:40
案例很多，理论很少。
0 有用 Hygge 2022-07-20 11:58:53
『听书』这本书的目的就是希望我们大家能够不要太傲慢，别轻易地下结论。能够用谦虚、淡定、符合常规的方法。不要轻易地做有罪推定，也不要太容易地轻信。总之，保持明智、保持善意就好了。
0 有用 打工心经 2022-06-13 23:12:49
断断续续读了好久。第一遍没太看懂，看完整本书后再返回去看目录，一下子又懂了，这本书确实讲到了很多跟陌生人打交道时会走进的误区。
0 有用 张樗寮 2022-06-07 21:50:14
倒也没有评分这么差吧……