Most people think Kafka is surreal. I don’t. Anyone who has had a strange illness knows that Kafka is a master of realism. One day you wake up and you are a bug. One day you wake up and your face is crooked. One day my father woke up and he could not walk and it turned out cancer was riddling his whole body. When I first read The Metamorphosis, I wept for Gregor Samsa. (查看原文)
The Roman god Janus has two faces, one looking backwards and one looking forwards. The fact that humans have only one face, on one side of our bodies, is perhaps a sign of our perceptual limitations. (As that wonderful actor told me long ago, “Unfortunately my penis is on the same side of my body as my face.”) We are not owls. Nor can we see the world in 360 degrees. Our faces are how we see and how we are seen. But the gods have more faces to look with. Should we aspire to have extra invisible faces with which to see reality? Or just pray to the gods who know more, who see more, than we can?
Janus’s face has a gateway to the past and to the future. I start to think of my face this way, as having a gate to the past and the future, rather than being fixed in time. (查看原文)
This book is extremely well written - it is beautiful, personal, moving, and draws on various literary references / imageries any lit lovers would love. For portions of the book, I listened to the audiobook and fell in love with Sarah's voice. I cried as I ...
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0 有用 wintermoon 2024-05-27 13:55:57 上海
被书名吸引 2024.5.27下午 finish
2 有用 ♬ CaR 2023-05-23 15:50:18 北京
剧作家萨拉·鲁尔生讲自己生下一对双胞胎后患上特发性面神经麻痹,左半边脸宛如冻结,再也不能做最简单的表情,不能眨眼、皱眉、吹气球,甚至微笑。书的内容非常丰富,既是病人如何面对病症带来的不便,面对不同医生、医疗方式时最真切的反应和感受,患病后对朋友甚至是亲人的复杂心情;与此同时也反思了社会对女性外表和微笑的无形要求带来的容貌焦虑,职业女性面对事业和家庭的跷跷板时的两难,当然还有创作者的感触和对全体家人... 剧作家萨拉·鲁尔生讲自己生下一对双胞胎后患上特发性面神经麻痹,左半边脸宛如冻结,再也不能做最简单的表情,不能眨眼、皱眉、吹气球,甚至微笑。书的内容非常丰富,既是病人如何面对病症带来的不便,面对不同医生、医疗方式时最真切的反应和感受,患病后对朋友甚至是亲人的复杂心情;与此同时也反思了社会对女性外表和微笑的无形要求带来的容貌焦虑,职业女性面对事业和家庭的跷跷板时的两难,当然还有创作者的感触和对全体家人朋友的爱意。语言诙谐顺畅,风格松弛真实,没有过分的煽情,但却情真意切,里面附有很多作者和家人的照片,生动地展示着她的童年,她的婚礼,她患病十年来的面部表情变化,那个只有半边的微笑呈现着她从痛苦回避,到坦然接受的整个过程。而且她还通过看《伦敦生活》模仿里面的鬼脸来做恢复练习,好可爱。 (展开)
0 有用 四月武器 2023-05-31 20:32:34 河北
身边也有朋友生完孩子得了面瘫,一年多才好,她竟然经历了十年,太难了。幸运的是她没有停止工作,也有一个医生丈夫忠诚又体贴。这本书介绍了她经历的种种求医与思考,最后她说: 也许那些看似破碎的东西,实际上正在经历一场无法言说、无法预见的治愈之旅。 最感动我的是孩子们——不假思索地说:“别这样,妈妈,我们喜欢你的半个微笑;你笑容满面,看起来怪怪的。”孩子们早就接受了面瘫的妈妈。这里真的好好哭。 哎,毕竟她... 身边也有朋友生完孩子得了面瘫,一年多才好,她竟然经历了十年,太难了。幸运的是她没有停止工作,也有一个医生丈夫忠诚又体贴。这本书介绍了她经历的种种求医与思考,最后她说: 也许那些看似破碎的东西,实际上正在经历一场无法言说、无法预见的治愈之旅。 最感动我的是孩子们——不假思索地说:“别这样,妈妈,我们喜欢你的半个微笑;你笑容满面,看起来怪怪的。”孩子们早就接受了面瘫的妈妈。这里真的好好哭。 哎,毕竟她们仨得了肠胃炎大吐特吐的时候身边也只有妈妈。摊手。想想都恐怖。 关于透明人的描述也相当真实: 我关心的其实不是那部戏,而是活得如同透明人的感觉,连象征性的问候“你今天和孩子过得怎样”都没有。我感觉我的剧作家身份完全被家庭主妇的身份取代了,我陷入深深的绝望中。 (展开)
0 有用 赛璐珞 2023-07-02 09:56:15 上海
挺励志的。
0 有用 wavyfly 2023-07-09 12:42:36 广东
6/10 頂著被罵的壓力,還是必須說,讀完無感。 可以算是流水賬的記錄,夾帶少許公報私仇的小段人生自傳。的確是提出了職場對女性的不友好,還有女性對自身的苛求,但類似故事聽到麻木,很大可能是被這幾年女Quan錘過頭,無法从心底生出同理心。