消失的多巴胺

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• “People refuse to change because they want a redo on their childhood,” says psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb, author of Maybe You Should Talk and presenter of the Dear Therapists podcasts. “Unconsciously what they are saying is: ‘I won’t change until you treat me the way I wanted to be treated when I was eight.’ But that’s not going to happen. So many people are waiting for their parents to change as adults. They are still waiting. They are saying: ‘When you change, Mum or Dad, I will feel better, and I will be able to be the adult I was meant to be. But it doesn’t work like that. Your partner will not redo your childhood for you, your job will not redo your childhood. Nothing will redo what happened. But you get to choose how you live your life now. Do you want to live it as the child who ma... (查看原文)

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• Somatic expert Irene Lyon says: “Everyone has the capacity to heal their nervous system. It’s not just about feeling happy, it’s about feeling all your emotions.You may have to work through the grief and anger first and get used to the feeling of knowing how to process joy. It’s true that you can’t change your childhood, but you can start to make sense of what happened in your childhood. There’s always hope and the capacity to change.” (查看原文)

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