作者:
Alfred Adler
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Colin Brett 出版社: Oneworld Publications 副标题: The Psychology of Personal Development 出版年: 2009-8-11 页数: 256 定价: CAD 44.50 装帧: Paperback ISBN: 9781851686704
"What Life Could Mean to You" is one of Alfred Adler's most popular books, combining a complete guide to his work on personal development with a practical approach to self-understanding. Focused on his 'three tasks of life' - marriage, work, and social relationships - it explores the key issues that influence the progress of our lives and our view of what life means. It combine...
"What Life Could Mean to You" is one of Alfred Adler's most popular books, combining a complete guide to his work on personal development with a practical approach to self-understanding. Focused on his 'three tasks of life' - marriage, work, and social relationships - it explores the key issues that influence the progress of our lives and our view of what life means. It combines clear, understandable explanations with pragmatic advice to enable a fuller understanding of what life can offer. With this, we can overcome the limitations of our past, and develop the confidence to transform both ourselves and our world.
Actually the book name of Chinese version transmits a narrow meaning of this book, what I take away from is you can get some cues to discover the meaning of your life, two key words, interest and coop...Actually the book name of Chinese version transmits a narrow meaning of this book, what I take away from is you can get some cues to discover the meaning of your life, two key words, interest and cooperation, you’re interested in improving and having a better life quality, and most importantly you cooperate with people in social interest things.(展开)
Actually the book name of Chinese version transmits a narrow meaning of this book, what I take away from is you can get some cues to discover the meaning of your life, two key words, interest and coop...Actually the book name of Chinese version transmits a narrow meaning of this book, what I take away from is you can get some cues to discover the meaning of your life, two key words, interest and cooperation, you’re interested in improving and having a better life quality, and most importantly you cooperate with people in social interest things.(展开)
Alfred给出了答案 一年多前读了与弗洛伊德齐名的心理学大师Alfred Adler的作品——《What Life Could Mean to You》，读罢觉得醍醐灌顶，顿感萦绕了十几年的心结终于找到源头。 Alfred认为，“一个人在五岁之前，其生活经验已经决定了他成年后解释自身遭遇和回应的方式，对于...
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if we understand that crime is not an isolated thing in itself but the symptom of an attitude to life, and if we can see how this attitude arises, then, instead of having an insoluble problem before us, we can set to work with the confidence that we can accomplish a change. 犯罪行为的避免，取决于态度。 Melancholia is like a long-continued rage and reproach against others, though for the purpose...
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if we understand that crime is not an isolated thing in itself but the symptom of an attitude to life, and if we can see how this attitude arises, then, instead of having an insoluble problem before us, we can set to work with the confidence that we can accomplish a change.
犯罪行为的避免，取决于态度。
Melancholia is like a long-continued rage and reproach against others, though for the purpose of gaining care, sympathy and support, the patient seems only to be dejected about his own guilt.
对抑郁患者的这个说法和我想象的完全不一样。
We have seen how it is best for a child to feel himself an equal part of his family and to take an interest in all the other members.
对孩子的教育，never pamper.
Sometimes the mouth lies or the head does not understand; but the functions of the body always speak the truth.口嫌体正直
Mind and body connect and affect each other, which is a simple, well-known common sense but why I kept forgetting it and barely put it into practice. But what is the style of life? our goal, our striving, ,the approach we make to the problem of life, the meanings we give to our life?
2022-01-15 02:13:29
Mind and body connect and affect each other, which is a simple, well-known common sense but why I kept forgetting it and barely put it into practice.
But what is the style of life? our goal, our striving, ,the approach we make to the problem of life, the meanings we give to our life?
If we have an eye for such things.— which really means, if we have a true interest in them and have trained ourselves in this direction — we shall be able to see their meaning in everything they do. Dreams and associations may prove useful: the personality is the same in dreaming life as in waking life, but in dreams the pressure of social demands is less acute and the personality will be rev...
2021-09-13 10:54:54
If we have an eye for such things.— which really means, if we have a true interest in them and have trained ourselves in this direction — we shall be able to see their meaning in everything they do.
Dreams and associations may prove useful: the personality is the same in dreaming life as in waking life, but in dreams the pressure of social demands is less acute and the personality will be
revealed with fewer safeguards and concealments.
Wills of their own: Very well-known sociologist in Germany has discovered that a surprising proportion of criminals had parents whose occupations related to the discouragement of crime, such as judges, police or prison wardens. Often the children of teachers are obstinate academically. My own experience has borne this out, and I have also found a surprising number of neurotic children among the...
2017-12-22 12:31:53
Wills of their own:
Very well-known sociologist in Germany has discovered that a surprising proportion of criminals had parents whose occupations related to the discouragement of crime, such as judges, police or prison wardens. Often the children of teachers are obstinate academically. My own experience has borne this out, and I have also found a surprising number of neurotic children among the children of psychologists, and of delinquent children among the offspring of psychologists, and of delinquent children among the offspring of ministers of religion. In a similar way, children whose parents place too much stress on urinating have a splendid opportunity of showing, through their enuresis, that they have wills of their own.引自 Mind and Body
Becoming God: We should be careful not to make too hasty an assessment of any particular striving for superiority, but we can find in all goals one common factor--a striving to be god-like. Sometimes we find children who express themselves quite openly in this way, and remark, "I should like to be God". Many philosophers have had the same idea. In a more moderate and reasonable way, perhaps, th...(1回应)
2017-12-22 12:39:54
Becoming God:
We should be careful not to make too hasty an assessment of any particular striving for superiority, but we can find in all goals one common factor--a striving to be god-like. Sometimes we find children who express themselves quite openly in this way, and remark, "I should like to be God". Many philosophers have had the same idea.
In a more moderate and reasonable way, perhaps, the same goal of god-likeness is expressed in the desire to know everything, to possess universal wisdom... these expectations are all based upon the desire to be like God. Even the atheist wishes to conquer God, to be higher than God; and we can recognize this as a peculiarly strong goal of superiority.
Once a person's goal of superiority has been defined, there are no mistakes made in their life style; all actions are consistent with that goal. The habits and behaviour of the individual are precisely right for attaining their declared goal, and they are beyond all criticism. The life style of every problem child, every neurotic, every alcoholic, criminal or sexual deviant reflects the behaviour appropriate to achieving what they take to be the position of superiority. It is impposible to criticize their behaviour in itself; it is exactly the bahaviour they ought to display if they are persuing such a goal.引自 Feelings of Inferiority and Superiority
Adolescence! For almost all young people, adolescence means one thing above all else: they must prove that they are no longer children. We might persuade them, perhaps, that they can take this for granted; and, if we could do that, a great deal of stress would be removed from the situation. But if they feel they must prove their maturity, they will inevitably overstress this point.
2017-12-22 12:47:00
Adolescence!
For almost all young people, adolescence means one thing above all else: they must prove that they are no longer children. We might persuade them, perhaps, that they can take this for granted; and, if we could do that, a great deal of stress would be removed from the situation. But if they feel they must prove their maturity, they will inevitably overstress this point.引自 Adolescence
Criminals: It is not financial hardship that forces them into crime. True, if times are difficult and people are hard-pressed, crimes increase. Statistics show that sometimes the number of crimes increases in line with a rise in the price of wheat. This is no guarantee, however, that it is the economic situation that causes the crime. It is more a sign that many people are liminited in their be...
2017-12-22 12:50:41
Criminals:
It is not financial hardship that forces them into crime. True, if times are difficult and people are hard-pressed, crimes increase. Statistics show that sometimes the number of crimes increases in line with a rise in the price of wheat. This is no guarantee, however, that it is the economic situation that causes the crime. It is more a sign that many people are liminited in their behaviour.
There are limits to their capacity for co-operation, and when these limits are reached they can no longer contribute, they lose the last remnant of co-operation and resort to crime. From other facts too, we discover that there are plenty of people who in favourable situations are not criminals but who, if a problem arises for which they are not prepared, can also turn to crime. It is their life style, their method of facing problems, that is important.引自 Crime and its Prevention
Role of Cooperation:
After all the investigations of Individual Psychology, we can at last clarify a very simple point. Criminals are not interested in other people. They can only co-operate to a certain degree. When this is exhausted, they turn to crime. The final straw comes when a problem is too difficult for them. It is interesting to consider the universal problems of life, the problems that criminals cannot succeed in solving. It appears that, ultimately, we have no problems in our lives except social problems; and these problems can only be solved if we are interested in others.
Co-operation is something that must be taught, and these criminals were never trained in co-operation.
They are not stupid or mentally handicapped. For the most part they draw quite sensible conclusions, if we grant them their goal of a fictitious personal superiority.
We can understand, then, how criminals who see attractive things and want to get hold of them easily will conclude that they must take them from a hostile world, a world in which they have no interest. They are suffering from a misguided outlook on life, a misguided estimate of their own importantce and of the importance of other people.引自 Crime and its Prevention
if we understand that crime is not an isolated thing in itself but the symptom of an attitude to life, and if we can see how this attitude arises, then, instead of having an insoluble problem before us, we can set to work with the confidence that we can accomplish a change. 犯罪行为的避免，取决于态度。 Melancholia is like a long-continued rage and reproach against others, though for the purpose...
2022-02-19 21:47:061人喜欢
if we understand that crime is not an isolated thing in itself but the symptom of an attitude to life, and if we can see how this attitude arises, then, instead of having an insoluble problem before us, we can set to work with the confidence that we can accomplish a change.
犯罪行为的避免，取决于态度。
Melancholia is like a long-continued rage and reproach against others, though for the purpose of gaining care, sympathy and support, the patient seems only to be dejected about his own guilt.
对抑郁患者的这个说法和我想象的完全不一样。
We have seen how it is best for a child to feel himself an equal part of his family and to take an interest in all the other members.
对孩子的教育，never pamper.
Sometimes the mouth lies or the head does not understand; but the functions of the body always speak the truth.口嫌体正直
Mind and body connect and affect each other, which is a simple, well-known common sense but why I kept forgetting it and barely put it into practice. But what is the style of life? our goal, our striving, ,the approach we make to the problem of life, the meanings we give to our life?
2022-01-15 02:13:29
Mind and body connect and affect each other, which is a simple, well-known common sense but why I kept forgetting it and barely put it into practice.
But what is the style of life? our goal, our striving, ,the approach we make to the problem of life, the meanings we give to our life?
If we have an eye for such things.— which really means, if we have a true interest in them and have trained ourselves in this direction — we shall be able to see their meaning in everything they do. Dreams and associations may prove useful: the personality is the same in dreaming life as in waking life, but in dreams the pressure of social demands is less acute and the personality will be rev...
2021-09-13 10:54:54
If we have an eye for such things.— which really means, if we have a true interest in them and have trained ourselves in this direction — we shall be able to see their meaning in everything they do.
Dreams and associations may prove useful: the personality is the same in dreaming life as in waking life, but in dreams the pressure of social demands is less acute and the personality will be
revealed with fewer safeguards and concealments.
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if we understand that crime is not an isolated thing in itself but the symptom of an attitude to life, and if we can see how this attitude arises, then, instead of having an insoluble problem before us, we can set to work with the confidence that we can accomplish a change. 犯罪行为的避免，取决于态度。 Melancholia is like a long-continued rage and reproach against others, though for the purpose...
Mind and body connect and affect each other, which is a simple, well-known common sense but why I kept forgetting it and barely put it into practice. But what is the style of life? our goal, our striving, ,the approach we make to the problem of life, the meanings we give to our life?
If we have an eye for such things.— which really means, if we have a true interest in them and have trained ourselves in this direction — we shall be able to see their meaning in everything they do. Dreams and associations may prove useful: the personality is the same in dreaming life as in waking life, but in dreams the pressure of social demands is less acute and the personality will be rev...
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0 有用 Joyce 2022-01-09 21:34:56
伴随而来的主题其实是 改变，通过人际连结而改变。解答了我关于改变的一个问题，应该做什么样的改变？什么样的改变是好的改变？看完这本书我觉得，能提高一个人的功能和适应性的改变，是我们应该做的改变。这样的改变是积极进取的而非消极逃避的。
0 有用 LaughingCobi 2022-01-08 20:15:56
Actually the book name of Chinese version transmits a narrow meaning of this book, what I take away from is you can get some cues to discover the meaning of your life, two key words, interest and coop... Actually the book name of Chinese version transmits a narrow meaning of this book, what I take away from is you can get some cues to discover the meaning of your life, two key words, interest and cooperation, you’re interested in improving and having a better life quality, and most importantly you cooperate with people in social interest things. (展开)
3 有用 小黄兔 2017-05-16 19:52:05
很有啓發和共鳴。如果是在以前看，我也許覺得略雞血，但有了人生經歷后，覺得的確如是。討論了幼年性格形成和後天人對自己性格和生活方式的打造。夢與記憶對人的性格分析的作用。家庭、學校影響。婚姻，兩性。犯罪與精神病等等。精神分析學中，這是最能跟個人經驗相關和對生活有啓發的。
0 有用 PhiloSophie 2021-12-06 05:53:57
虽然是上世纪30年代的书，但很多观点很前卫，前卫到我们当代才开始呼吁和实践。或者说所谓当今那些“前卫”的声音，其实早已存在，而人们更倾向依赖固定的传统和思维方式不愿进步
0 有用 如果云朵会讲话 2022-03-14 08:08:11
这是认识阿德勒心理的第一本书，非常强有力的心理学家，对幸福，和他人贡献有了新的链接和体会。
0 有用 小阿狸 2022-02-19 21:38:29
作者是神经学家，从童年孩子行为到犯罪到最后一章婚姻讲述了很多事实性和试验性的事，生活可能有什么意义呢，其实文中也并无答案，每个个体情况不同，是借鉴他人经验，和自己的态度取向，决定了生活的意义。
0 有用 Joyce 2022-01-09 21:34:56
伴随而来的主题其实是 改变，通过人际连结而改变。解答了我关于改变的一个问题，应该做什么样的改变？什么样的改变是好的改变？看完这本书我觉得，能提高一个人的功能和适应性的改变，是我们应该做的改变。这样的改变是积极进取的而非消极逃避的。
0 有用 LaughingCobi 2022-01-08 20:15:56
Actually the book name of Chinese version transmits a narrow meaning of this book, what I take away from is you can get some cues to discover the meaning of your life, two key words, interest and coop... Actually the book name of Chinese version transmits a narrow meaning of this book, what I take away from is you can get some cues to discover the meaning of your life, two key words, interest and cooperation, you’re interested in improving and having a better life quality, and most importantly you cooperate with people in social interest things. (展开)
0 有用 PhiloSophie 2021-12-06 05:53:57
虽然是上世纪30年代的书，但很多观点很前卫，前卫到我们当代才开始呼吁和实践。或者说所谓当今那些“前卫”的声音，其实早已存在，而人们更倾向依赖固定的传统和思维方式不愿进步