Healing the Shame that Binds You is the most enduring work of family relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author John Bradshaw. In it, he shows how unhealthy toxic shame, often learned young and maintained into adulthood, is the core component in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions and drive to superachieve. While positive shame empowers us and sustains t...
Healing the Shame that Binds You is the most enduring work of family relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author John Bradshaw. In it, he shows how unhealthy toxic shame, often learned young and maintained into adulthood, is the core component in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions and drive to superachieve. While positive shame empowers us and sustains the fabric of our social system, inappropriate or misdirected shame results in the breakdown of our self-esteem, the destruction of the family system, and an inability to move forward with our lives.In an honest and emotionally revealing style based largely on his personal experience with addiction and his decades as a counselor, John Bradshaw moves from the source and manifestation of toxic shame to the practical tools-affirmations, visualizations, inner voice and feeling work, guided meditations, and other healing techniques-that will release the shame that binds us to our past.
High school is the time of puberty. And puberty is a time of feeling intense exposure and vulnerability. Whatever toxic shame a person canies from childhood will be tested in high school. (查看原文)
Our society is highly addictive. We have 60 million sexual abuse victims. Possibly 75 million lives are seriously affected by alcoholism, with no telling how many more through other drugs. We have no idea of the actual impact on our economy resulting from the billions of tax free dollars that come from the illegal drug traders. Over 15 million families are violent. Some 60% of women and 50% of men have eating disorders. We have no actual data on work addiction or sexual addictions. I saw a recent quotation that cited 13 million gambling addicts. If toxic shame is the fuel of addiction — we have a massive problem of shame in our society. (查看原文)
这是一本自己打算反复阅读的书，在被作者深度共情的同时，也对书中提到的一些方法跃跃欲试。期待这本书的中文版能早日出版，让更多的孩子不用等长大了才开始尊重自己的为人性（人就是不完美的），同时也让那些还在苦苦挣扎的“大”小孩不再内耗，并且有勇气活出自己本来的样子。
“Anytime you make someone into a guru, you have relinquished your own ...这是一本自己打算反复阅读的书，在被作者深度共情的同时，也对书中提到的一些方法跃跃欲试。期待这本书的中文版能早日出版，让更多的孩子不用等长大了才开始尊重自己的为人性（人就是不完美的），同时也让那些还在苦苦挣扎的“大”小孩不再内耗，并且有勇气活出自己本来的样子。
“Anytime you make someone into a guru, you have relinquished your own power.”
“Perfectionism sets us up for being measured, which in turn sets us up for perpetual disappointment.”(展开)
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8 有用 布莱克特 2023-04-01 10:35:30 上海
中国每个认识字儿的人都应该读一下。比九年义务教育能有用。
9 有用 蕾宝👽 2023-09-01 10:44:14 北京
这是一本自己打算反复阅读的书，在被作者深度共情的同时，也对书中提到的一些方法跃跃欲试。期待这本书的中文版能早日出版，让更多的孩子不用等长大了才开始尊重自己的为人性（人就是不完美的），同时也让那些还在苦苦挣扎的“大”小孩不再内耗，并且有勇气活出自己本来的样子。 “Anytime you make someone into a guru, you have relinquished your own ... 这是一本自己打算反复阅读的书，在被作者深度共情的同时，也对书中提到的一些方法跃跃欲试。期待这本书的中文版能早日出版，让更多的孩子不用等长大了才开始尊重自己的为人性（人就是不完美的），同时也让那些还在苦苦挣扎的“大”小孩不再内耗，并且有勇气活出自己本来的样子。 “Anytime you make someone into a guru, you have relinquished your own power.” “Perfectionism sets us up for being measured, which in turn sets us up for perpetual disappointment.” (展开)
4 有用 Estelle 2024-07-14 09:01:15 上海
有关基于cptsd的toxic shame的最最详细的书籍，值得一读再读。尽管后半部分的改善方法并不太有共鸣，但对toxic shame本身大篇幅的精准剖解已经是缓解问题的一大步了。希望有译者能关注这本书，中文译本会对很多人有所帮助。
4 有用 Penelope 2019-04-21 00:06:01
羞耻感会让我们隐藏表现真实的自己，恰恰没法让别人爱上这个修饰过的假我……我在努力克服羞耻感在亲密关系中给我带来的阻碍啦。
3 有用 成步堂猫二 2024-04-08 15:49:25 北京
断断续续读了一个多月，书里面很多内容都值得人一而再再而三地深入思考。感谢作者把toxic shame和magical child带入我们的生活。I feel more integrated now. 这本书目前只有英文版，我这有电子版的，希望更多人能看到这本好书，有需要的友邻可以豆油我说明来意并留下邮箱。