出版社: Atria Books
副标题: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
出版年: 2006-4-6
页数: 272
定价: GBP 10.99
装帧: Paperback
ISBN: 9780743487481
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Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need -- and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for workin...
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Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need -- and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting -- including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.
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埃尔菲•科恩,美国知名育儿作家、教育学者,已出版9部深具影响力的育儿著作,包括《奖励的惩罚》(Punished by Rewards)及《真正的学校》(The School Our Children Deserve),其提出的某些育儿观念在国内外儿童教育界极富影响力。
译者:小巫,著名儿童教育专家。毕业于北京大学,美国Rutgers大学教育学硕士,国际母乳会哺乳辅导,美国父母效能训练课程(P.E.T.)英文讲师。著有《让孩子做主》、《给孩子自由》、《和孩子划清界限》、《跟上孩子成长的脚步》、《接纳孩子》、《成功渡过母爱第一关》及《小巫厨房蜜语》等畅销书籍。担任中央电视台、中国教育电视台和中央人民广播电台等多家媒体的长期嘉宾专家、全国妇联心系新生命组委会特聘专家、清华大学特聘讲师、清华优佳教育家长研习顾问,被国外媒体誉为“中国的斯波克博士”。
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我眼中的“无条件养育” ——浅谈亲子教育中的道与术
被有条件养育大的我们
我喜欢这种"偏激"的教育方式
蜀道难,难于上青天,吾将上下而求索
孩子需要的和我们给予的可有并不一致。让孩子感觉到爱。
没条件的生活更简单美好
你为孩子好,还是为自己省事儿?
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这是一本颠覆我教育观念的书。 虽然也许有点过犹不及,可如果“不过”,何以能在以“掌控”为主流教育理念的世界里激起浪花?! 作者并没有给出一个好的答案,甚至连一个明确的答案都没有。 一开始,我不喜欢这个书名,“无条件”这个词让我反感。还好作者一再申明,他所说... (展开)> 更多书评 57篇
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1 有用 farewell 2017-12-17 12:10:48
应该早点读的。
0 有用 Clyde.L 2017-08-22 05:32:46
看育儿书很有意思,从时间线起点开始思考如何做人这件事,其实是每个人毕生要做的功课。另外 mentor 他人或是广义上的如何提供有效反馈的能力在生活的各种关系里面都非常关键,听到书里熟悉的那些反例,同感做小孩太可怜了…#做成年人真好
0 有用 Lucia 2016-05-09 05:46:29
interesting, on the theory of empathy, maybe there's more... people need to feel secure before they can reach out to the world
0 有用 踏水而行 2018-05-06 23:46:38
知不易,行更難。很對不起我的孩子。
0 有用 jametong 2017-08-27 18:33:03
科恩的几本书都很好,与无条件养育对应的是有条件养育,即小孩需要满足大人的特定需求,大人才会表现出爱孩子的行为/表情;其它情况下,会让孩子觉得你不爱他,
0 有用 BBB 2021-04-17 00:17:36
trauma healing & stress relieving
0 有用 高兴 2021-04-03 13:37:31
绝大多数都是已知信息。特别提醒要注意的一点是奖励称赞也是控制的方式,无条件的教养必须包含在孩子取得差的成绩时同样要接受和表扬孩子。
0 有用 什么跟什么 2020-03-05 09:12:41
感觉一般般
0 有用 踏水而行 2018-05-06 23:46:38
知不易,行更難。很對不起我的孩子。
1 有用 farewell 2017-12-17 12:10:48
应该早点读的。