girls, girls, labels, labels

totally not a fan of Sonic Youth first of all. i laid my eyes on this book for solely instrumental reason: i wanted to find out if her experience could somehow enlighten my own personal way of this half figuring out the mess, half self achieving process a little. maybe she did in the end. so the one thing that's worthy of this review piece is: “what it feels like to be a rock star girl". you see the fucked up part is no one ever asks a man this. so Kim Gordon blazed her way out like she described: to hold on a middle-class-non-typical-punk-world-outsider identity, to pursue her sacred calling of modern art until this day (jealous af), to come up with the band, then to get married and have a child to carry on most of the tours (mission impossible), to be able to get up and transform after finding out the affair from her husband, to simply continue the miracles after middle age. all super. we marvel at her life journey and we have questions in mind for sure, but does this have to do with gender so much?

a bit cliche to discuss what a girl should/should not do in the modern society, but really the labels haven't gone anywhere even in such revolutionary and edgy fields like music or art. do you have to be a boy in a rock/punk/metal band? is there a job category specifically for lesbians or gays? why so many gender fluid people consider themselves more of a fit-in in industries like tattoo art, photography, cosmetics, communications or event promotion (just to name a few)? jobs are jobs, any divisions or differentiations other than your JD are so not necessary. a girl is a girl. that's it. the biological distinction is more than enough, we should all abandon the social construct of every possible labeling, i mean i'm not even a feminist (at least not according to my definition)!

every girl needs to forget herself being a girl once so often! tomboys should all have real orgasm! boys can cry their heart out on the street if they want to! gays can lead a full team of programmers and data engineers with lipsticks on! no more gender options on job application pages pls! let's just all try to normalize the world a tiny bit and stop freakin out.