The Laws of Arguing According to Gerry Spence 1. Everyone is capable of making the winning argument.2. Winning is getting what we want, which also means helping "others" get what they want.3. Learn that words are a weapon, and can be used hostilely in combat.4. Know that there is always a "biological advantage" of delivering the TRUTH.5. Assault is not argument.6. Use fear as a...
The Laws of Arguing According to Gerry Spence 1. Everyone is capable of making the winning argument.2. Winning is getting what we want, which also means helping "others" get what they want.3. Learn that words are a weapon, and can be used hostilely in combat.4. Know that there is always a "biological advantage" of delivering the TRUTH.5. Assault is not argument.6. Use fear as an ally in pubic speaking or in argument. Learn to convert its energy.7. Let emotions show and don't discourage passion.8. Don't be blinded by brilliance.9. Learn to speak with the body. The body sometimes speaks more powerfully than words.10. Know that the enemy is not the person with whom we are engaged in a failing argument, but the vision within ourselves.
In the end, ARGUMENT IS NOT ALWAYS LIKE COMBAT WITH WORDS.
IT IS MORE LIKE INTERCOURSE. An activity that is more satisfying and valuable
when both parties join in.
LOCK 6: If I argue, I want to win.
KEY 6: Ask yourself, ‘What is winning?’ Do we mean their abject surrender? Words
are weapons. Words kill; words maim. Words of rejection, betrayal, hatred, or denial
can destroy as surely as a dagger. Words can cause war.
Argument is a tool with which we can achieve an end; satisfy a want; fulfill a desire.
Argument is the art by which we can connect and interact successfully with the other.
Successful argument, therefore, can never be a verbal bludgeon, with which we beat the
other into submission and surrender.
Winning IS GETTING WHAT WE WANT. If argument is the means by... (查看原文)
"successful argument, like successful lovemaking, requires two participants. And, like successful lovemaking, the desire of one cannot be forced upon the other." I really 服了。
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"successful argument, like successful lovemaking, requires two participants. And, like successful lovemaking, the desire of one cannot be forced upon the other." I really 服了。