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Brene Brown 出版社: JP Tarcher/Penguin Putnam 副标题: Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy and Power 出版年: 2008-3-21 页数: 336 定价: GBP 13.99 装帧: Paperback ISBN: 9781592403356
The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can’t seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, “Never good enough!” and “What will people think?”
The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can’t seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, “Never good enough!” and “What will people think?”
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance we might think it’s because we admire perfection, but that’s not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are “real” – we’re drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate . Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what and how we’re supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection .
Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we’re all in this together.
Dr. Brown writes, “We need our lives back. It’s time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection – the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives.”
作者简介
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Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW, is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. An award-winning teacher and nationally renowned speaker, she is also the author of The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly. Her groundbreaking work has been featured widely in the media, including multiple TEDTalks and a PBS special. She lives in Houston, Texas,...
Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW, is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. An award-winning teacher and nationally renowned speaker, she is also the author of The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly. Her groundbreaking work has been featured widely in the media, including multiple TEDTalks and a PBS special. She lives in Houston, Texas, with her husband and two children.
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Introduction
1. Understanding Shame
2. Shame Resilience and the Power of Empathy
3. The First Element: Recognizing Shame and Understanding Our Triggers
4. The Second Element: Practicing Critical Awareness
5. The Third Element: Reaching Out
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Introduction
1. Understanding Shame
2. Shame Resilience and the Power of Empathy
3. The First Element: Recognizing Shame and Understanding Our Triggers
4. The Second Element: Practicing Critical Awareness
5. The Third Element: Reaching Out
6. The Fourth Element: Speaking Shame
7. Practicing Courage in a Culture of Fear
8. Practicing Compassion in a Culture of Blame
9. Practicing Connection in a Culture of Disconnection
10. Creating a Culture of Connection
Recommendations, Resources and References
Index
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Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging. Women often experience shame when they are entangled in a web of layered,conflicting and competing social-community expectations. Shame creates feelings of fear, blame and disconnection. (查看原文)
shame – a complex blend of embarrassment, pain and a sense of isolation that makes you suspect your mistake somehow marks you as a mediocre or deeply fallible person.
【2016-2020四年】读着实在是太通畅了。本年度（2016）最喜欢的书。Shame unravels our connection to others. In fact, I often refer to shame as the fear of disconnection —- The fear of being perceived as flawed and unworthy of acc...【2016-2020四年】读着实在是太通畅了。本年度（2016）最喜欢的书。Shame unravels our connection to others. In fact, I often refer to shame as the fear of disconnection —- The fear of being perceived as flawed and unworthy of acceptance or belonging. || After 3 years in 2019 读完了empathy那章: Show others empathy: 虽然同理心是单向的，但是connection是双向的，对他人没有同理心导致的是你自己长久的isolated的状态。多么通透的解释！(展开)
It’s more than a book on self-acceptance as its name reveals. Empathy and connection require us to know and accept ourselves before we can know and accept others, that makes the author pay a lot effor...It’s more than a book on self-acceptance as its name reveals. Empathy and connection require us to know and accept ourselves before we can know and accept others, that makes the author pay a lot effort debating on how to face the real self with courage, be more empathetic and compassionate. But why people have to be, especially for non-altruisms.(展开)
首先，我是先看过作者 Brene Brown 的一些作品（比如说《Daring Greatly》、《The Power of Vulnerability》）之后，对 Shame 这个题材很感兴趣，所以又找了她其他的书来查漏补缺的。 《I Thought it Was Just Me》可能出版的时间比较早，所以涵盖的内容没有她后来的作品多，以...
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0 有用 Lucia 2018-04-28 12:33:51
前半段比较冲击，后面重复了
0 有用 小藥丸 2023-12-28 15:17:15 广东
shame – a complex blend of embarrassment, pain and a sense of isolation that makes you suspect your mistake somehow marks you as a mediocre or deeply fallible person.
0 有用 Resonance 2020-01-18 14:15:31
【2016-2020四年】读着实在是太通畅了。本年度（2016）最喜欢的书。Shame unravels our connection to others. In fact, I often refer to shame as the fear of disconnection —- The fear of being perceived as flawed and unworthy of acc... 【2016-2020四年】读着实在是太通畅了。本年度（2016）最喜欢的书。Shame unravels our connection to others. In fact, I often refer to shame as the fear of disconnection —- The fear of being perceived as flawed and unworthy of acceptance or belonging. || After 3 years in 2019 读完了empathy那章: Show others empathy: 虽然同理心是单向的，但是connection是双向的，对他人没有同理心导致的是你自己长久的isolated的状态。多么通透的解释！ (展开)
0 有用 可頌島島民 2022-09-06 00:43:16 中国香港
I think she wrote the book (and others) for money. Interesting research topic, bad writing. I’d rather spend the time on actual papers.
0 有用 Ray 2022-09-17 15:55:36 北京
It’s more than a book on self-acceptance as its name reveals. Empathy and connection require us to know and accept ourselves before we can know and accept others, that makes the author pay a lot effor... It’s more than a book on self-acceptance as its name reveals. Empathy and connection require us to know and accept ourselves before we can know and accept others, that makes the author pay a lot effort debating on how to face the real self with courage, be more empathetic and compassionate. But why people have to be, especially for non-altruisms. (展开)