Chapter47 - Women in Tech

全篇重点，尤其是这句：
For many male software developers, these conditions drove them deeper and deeper into technology
as both an escape and a way to prove themselves worthy to society.
These men harbor a deep-seated resentment towards cool guys, jocks and especially, especially,
those girls that they wanted, but couldn’t have—the ones that rejected them.
作为女性，会感受到更多来自部分男性的恶意。我对不少“直男玩笑”真心感到不适（e.g. 默认女生入组就是给（男）大佬端茶倒水、做吉祥物或者鼓励师；把女性当作性资源，觉得学长带学妹一定是因为学妹漂亮；对“另类女性”酸溜溜的嘲讽；“是女性所以她技术肯定不行”的刻板印象。个人感觉就是harassment，已经很冒犯人了），而我最反感的就是部分人“你想多了”甚至“你们女的就是爱胡思乱想”的回应。别的不说，最起码搞清楚男女之间相处到底该有什么界限，明明就是自己做过火了还要怪别人少见多怪。
If you go around and look for reasons to be offended, you’ll find them—trust me.
It’s like going out in the wrong neighborhood at night and looking for trouble.
If you look for it, you will find it.
Plenty of guys will says inappropriate things.
They will make offensive comments and jokes.
They will do silly, childish stuff, that you should just ignore, because it’s not worth the fight, it’s
honestly not a big deal, and you don’t want to get a stigma attached to you that causes everyone to
walk on eggshells around you all the time.
Like I said, there are plenty of reasons you can be offended, and you can find them pretty easily.
But I would personally suggest making that list of things very, very small.
The less you let things affect you, the fewer things will affect you, and that makes for a much
less stressful life.
这些忠告不仅适用于女性，总之，当别人指责你做错了什么，不要急着归咎于自己，因为有时候就是他们有错。