一些摘抄和提要

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      “Every time you break the law you pay, and every time you obey the law you pay”
        Accept yourself, and expect more of yourself.
        Everything matters. Nothing matters.
        
       Hell is other people. Heaven is other people.
        Silence is sometimes the best reply.
        Make people happier by acknowledging that they’re not feeling happy.
        Being very accessible sometimes makes it hard to connect with people.
        What we do every day matters more than what we do once in a while.
        We should make sure the things we do to feel better don’t make us feel worse.

        Make it easy to do right and hard to go wrong.
        By giving something up, we may gain.
        Be selfless, if only for selfish reasons.
        Things often get harder before they get easier.
        We’re not very different from other people,but those differences are very important.
        It’s easier to change our surroundings than ourselves.
        We can’t make people change, but when we change, others may change.
        When we give more to ourselves,we can ask more from ourselves.

一些提供的小方法
1. Accountability.
 Plan ballgames with a friend who’ll be annoyed if you don’t show up.
2. Safeguards. (If-Then)
Anticipate temptation and decide in advance how to handle challenging circumstances.
If the weather turns bad, then I’ll （do push ups at home）
3. Convenience. Keep healthy snacks in your desk and home
Put on the inside house sneakers once you get home.
4. New Start
A new situation makes it much easier to change habits.
If u have a new routine, start taking your lunch to work.
5. Monitoring. Wear a pedometer.
Decide how much you want to eat, and put it on your plate—and no seconds.
6. Pairing. Only eat when sitting at a table.
Only watch cartoons while you’re on the treadmill.
Only eat a cake after one paragraph has been done.
7. Loophole-Spotting.
 • Tomorrow loophole—“It doesn’t matter what I do today, because tomorrow, I’m going to start training hard./working hard/eating healthy
• Moral Licensing—“I’ve been so good about writing, it’s ok to take a break.”
• One-Coin—“What difference does one visit to the gym make?”
• Fake-Self Actualization—”You only live once. I can’t pass this up!”