The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children.
When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent." French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special.
Yet, the French children Druckerman knows sleep throug...
The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children.
When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent." French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special.
Yet, the French children Druckerman knows sleep through the night at two or three months old while those of her American friends take a year or more. French kids eat well-rounded meals that are more likely to include braised leeks than chicken nuggets. And while her American friends spend their visits resolving spats between their kids, her French friends sip coffee while the kids play.
Motherhood itself is a whole different experience in France. There's no role model, as there is in America, for the harried new mom with no life of her own. French mothers assume that even good parents aren't at the constant service of their children and that there's no need to feel guilty about this. They have an easy, calm authority with their kids that Druckerman can only envy.
Of course, French parenting wouldn't be worth talking about if it produced robotic, joyless children. In fact, French kids are just as boisterous, curious, and creative as Americans. They're just far better behaved and more in command of themselves. While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are- by design-toddling around and discovering the world at their own pace.
With a notebook stashed in her diaper bag, Druckerman-a former reporter for The Wall Street Journal-sets out to learn the secrets to raising a society of good little sleepers, gourmet eaters, and reasonably relaxed parents. She discovers that French parents are extremely strict about some things and strikingly permissive about others. And she realizes that to be a different kind of parent, you don't just need a different parenting philosophy. You need a very different view of what a child actually is.
While finding her own firm non, Druckerman discovers that children-including her own-are capable of feats she'd never imagined.
作者简介
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Pamela Druckerman is a former staff reporter for The Wall Street Journal, where she covered foreign affairs. She has also written for The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Marie Claire, and appeared on The Today Show and NPR's Morning Edition. Her previous book, Lust in Translation, was translated into eight languages. She has a master's degree in international affairs f...
Pamela Druckerman is a former staff reporter for The Wall Street Journal, where she covered foreign affairs. She has also written for The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Marie Claire, and appeared on The Today Show and NPR's Morning Edition. Her previous book, Lust in Translation, was translated into eight languages. She has a master's degree in international affairs from Columbia. She lives in Paris.
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0 有用 杂草 2023-12-19 04:41:20 美国
挺有趣的。也许是我读的美国育儿书还不够，没觉得美国有书里描述的那么溺爱孩子。法国育儿总结来讲就是把孩子不当孩子当个懂事的人，然后不为了孩子迷失自我。还是挺有借鉴意义的。不过很反感the part说法国女人都自愿承担大部分的家庭和育儿责任因为男人天生就不会做。HELLO?! 如一位豆友所言，波伏娃会从坟墓里爬出来的。。。男人就是这么被男权社会惯出来的。我坚持男女共同承担家庭和育儿责任，没有哪一方天生... 挺有趣的。也许是我读的美国育儿书还不够，没觉得美国有书里描述的那么溺爱孩子。法国育儿总结来讲就是把孩子不当孩子当个懂事的人，然后不为了孩子迷失自我。还是挺有借鉴意义的。不过很反感the part说法国女人都自愿承担大部分的家庭和育儿责任因为男人天生就不会做。HELLO?! 如一位豆友所言，波伏娃会从坟墓里爬出来的。。。男人就是这么被男权社会惯出来的。我坚持男女共同承担家庭和育儿责任，没有哪一方天生就是做苦力的命。 (展开)
0 有用 Ann 2020-08-31 06:59:00
写得挺有趣的，不是Emily Oster那种学术书，只是个人观察和体验，可以当趣闻看看，可以让当妈的比较没有负担，但其实也是更把孩子当作一个独立的人，相信他们能理解规则，更尊重他人，同时也更authoritative，不像美国这么spoil。不过说美国人不喜欢daycare？好像同事们都是强烈推荐的。有声书装法语口音好逗！
0 有用 多喜子 2023-05-23 22:40:16 美国
[有声书] 久负盛名的一本学习法国妈妈育儿经的书，听下来也确实有点及时雨的感觉，给美国和国内现在比较常见的越来越操心的育儿方法提供了一些其他选项，也揭示了不少美国中产阶级育儿存在的问题，给人以警醒而不要把看到的就当理所当然地全盘接受（比如儿童饮食这方面，简直是除了炸鸡和mac & cheese就没有吃的东西了一样）。总结起来我觉得法国父母育儿的核心就是早早地把孩子当作家庭的一员，这不仅包括家庭成员... [有声书] 久负盛名的一本学习法国妈妈育儿经的书，听下来也确实有点及时雨的感觉，给美国和国内现在比较常见的越来越操心的育儿方法提供了一些其他选项，也揭示了不少美国中产阶级育儿存在的问题，给人以警醒而不要把看到的就当理所当然地全盘接受（比如儿童饮食这方面，简直是除了炸鸡和mac & cheese就没有吃的东西了一样）。总结起来我觉得法国父母育儿的核心就是早早地把孩子当作家庭的一员，这不仅包括家庭成员的权利，更包括家庭成员的义务，要让孩子知道自己不是全家的唯一中心，每个家庭成员都有自己的喜好、追求和选择，要给予他人尊重和支持。沿着这个思路，也不难理解为什么法国妈妈能更好的掌握自己除了妈妈角色之外的生活。不过话又说回来，这些也几乎完全建立在法国近乎免费且高质量的托儿所基础之上，美国是没指望了。 (展开)
0 有用 光与影 2015-03-14 07:16:55
更欣赏书中描述的法国人的育儿理念，不过把美国人写得有些极端了
0 有用 cobblest 2021-04-01 10:25:38
法国妈妈不焦虑育儿经