作者:
Daniel J. Siegel
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Tina Payne Bryson 出版社: Bantam 副标题: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind 出版年: 2014-9-23 页数: 288 定价: USD 26.00 装帧: Hardcover ISBN: 9780345548047
Highlighting the fascinating link between a child’s neurological development and the way a parent reacts to misbehavior, No-Drama Discipline provides an effective, compassionate road map for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears—without causing a scene.
Defining the true meaning of the “d” word (to instruct, not to shout or reprimand), the authors explain how to reach you...
Highlighting the fascinating link between a child’s neurological development and the way a parent reacts to misbehavior, No-Drama Discipline provides an effective, compassionate road map for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears—without causing a scene.
Defining the true meaning of the “d” word (to instruct, not to shout or reprimand), the authors explain how to reach your child, redirect emotions, and turn a meltdown into an opportunity for growth. By doing so, the cycle of negative behavior (and punishment) is essentially brought to a halt, as problem solving becomes a win/win situation. Inside this sanity-saving guide you’ll discover
• strategies that help parents identify their own discipline philosophy—and master the best methods to communicate the lessons they are trying to impart
• facts on child brain development—and what kind of discipline is most appropriate and constructive at all ages and stages
• the way to calmly and lovingly connect with a child—no matter how extreme the behavior—while still setting clear and consistent limits
• tips for navigating your child through a tantrum to achieve insight, empathy, and repair
• twenty discipline mistakes even the best parents make—and how to stay focused on the principles of whole-brain parenting and discipline techniques
Complete with candid stories and playful illustrations that bring the authors’ suggestions to life, No-Drama Discipline shows you how to work with your child’s developing mind, peacefully resolve conflicts, and inspire happiness and strengthen resilience in everyone in the family.
作者简介
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Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., is clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, the founding co-director of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center, and executive director of the Mindsight institute. A graduate of Harvard Medical School, Dr. Siegel is the author of several books, including the New York Times bestseller Brainstorm and the bestsellers Mindsight, Pa...
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., is clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, the founding co-director of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center, and executive director of the Mindsight institute. A graduate of Harvard Medical School, Dr. Siegel is the author of several books, including the New York Times bestseller Brainstorm and the bestsellers Mindsight, Parenting from the Inside Out (with Mary Hartzell), and The Whole-Brain Child (with Tina Payne Bryson). Also the author of the internationally acclaimed professional texts The Mindful Brain and The Developing Mind, Dr. Siegel keynotes conferences and conducts workshops worldwide. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife.
Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., is the co-author (with Dan Siegel) of the bestselling The Whole-Brain Child, which has been translated into eighteen languages. She is a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist, the director of parenting for the Mindsight Institute, and the child development specialist at Saint Mark’s School in Altadena, California. She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world. Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, and she lives near Los Angeles with her husband and three children.
目录
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Before You Read This Book: A Question p. xi
Introduction: Relational, Low-Drama Discipline p. xiii
Chapter 1 ReTHINKING Discipline p. 3
Chapter 2 Your Brain on Discipline p. 33
Chapter 3 From Tantrum to Tranquility: Connection Is the Key p. 66
Chapter 4 No-Drama Connection in Action p. 100
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Before You Read This Book: A Question p. xi
Introduction: Relational, Low-Drama Discipline p. xiii
Chapter 1 ReTHINKING Discipline p. 3
Chapter 2 Your Brain on Discipline p. 33
Chapter 3 From Tantrum to Tranquility: Connection Is the Key p. 66
Chapter 4 No-Drama Connection in Action p. 100
Chapter 5 1-2-3 Discipline: Redirecting for Today, and for Tomorrow p. 136
Chapter 6 Addressing Behavior: As Simple as R-E-D-I-R-E-C-T p. 165
Conclusion: On Magic Wands, Being Human, Reconnection, and Change: Four Messages of Hope p. 213
Further Resources p. 225
Connect and Redirect Refrigerator Sheet p. 226
When a Parenting Expert Loses It p. 228
A Note to Our Child's Caregivers p. 235
Twenty Discipline Mistakes Even Great Parents Make p. 238
An Excerpt from The Whole-Brain Child p. 245
Acknowledgments p. 253
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管理下属和管理孩子通用。
CONNECT and REDIRECT！孩子长期的行为比短期的结果更重要。
Ask three Questions:
1) Why they behave like this?
2) What lesson I want to teach?
3) How could I teach this lesson?
不要让孩子感到威胁，那会激起大脑的防御本能，要努力...管理下属和管理孩子通用。
CONNECT and REDIRECT！孩子长期的行为比短期的结果更重要。
Ask three Questions:
1) Why they behave like this?
2) What lesson I want to teach?
3) How could I teach this lesson?
不要让孩子感到威胁，那会激起大脑的防御本能，要努力与理智的大脑对话。
先与孩子进行同理心沟通，建立同理的连接。
Connection is not spoiling。
要具体情况具体对待，没有可以通用的法则。
要首先让自己放松，孩子才能放松，比如坐到视线比孩子还低的地方。
要建立规矩，但不要太苛刻。安全规矩一定要遵守，其他的规则可以视情况有一些例外(展开)
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0 有用 Chen 2017-06-19 01:01:08
Stupid
0 有用 Lucia 2019-01-29 09:32:53
Kind of the same idea: that discipline is not punishmey, but teach. But a bit too concrete right now, maybe i’ll come back for the examples later
0 有用 untamedheart 2017-08-11 03:57:48
清晰易懂，挺好的帮助理解如何应对孩子的情绪化，也有一些看似鸡汤的话抚慰父母的焦虑。但是教养类的书那么多，方法论那么多，如何将一个一个看似简单的体系，一串串bullet points融会贯通运用到现实中每一个具体的特定的场景中更有挑战。中文翻译为去情绪化有误导。
0 有用 Miss Coconut 2021-11-10 13:19:07
读了好多本育儿书之后感觉理念都是相似的（当然也可能是我只选了相似的书来读），而且不仅对育儿有用，对成人之间的人际交往也很有用，因为讲究的都是对孩子/人的尊重，和他们共情。要理解孩子的大脑还在发展期，给他们有爱的安全的环境，允许他们犯错，用他们能接受的方式帮助他们成长，最终的目的是成长为独立的个体，能分辨善恶，为自己的人生做出好的选择。书中的原则简单易懂，最后也有一个小总结，可以打印出来贴在冰箱上。... 读了好多本育儿书之后感觉理念都是相似的（当然也可能是我只选了相似的书来读），而且不仅对育儿有用，对成人之间的人际交往也很有用，因为讲究的都是对孩子/人的尊重，和他们共情。要理解孩子的大脑还在发展期，给他们有爱的安全的环境，允许他们犯错，用他们能接受的方式帮助他们成长，最终的目的是成长为独立的个体，能分辨善恶，为自己的人生做出好的选择。书中的原则简单易懂，最后也有一个小总结，可以打印出来贴在冰箱上。对我很有启发的一点是：有负面情绪是正常的，但是要保证发泄负面情绪的时候不能伤害别人也不能伤害自己。我一直觉得负面情绪本身就是不好的，但是其实有时候积压了太多负面情绪最终爆发反而适得其反。W已经开始有小情绪了，也时不时耍赖，我们一开始准备用一本比较老的育儿书里的方法来应对，但是现在觉得跟着这本书靠谱！ (展开)
1 有用 acorn 2015-12-09 10:52:30
管理下属和管理孩子通用。 CONNECT and REDIRECT！孩子长期的行为比短期的结果更重要。 Ask three Questions: 1) Why they behave like this? 2) What lesson I want to teach? 3) How could I teach this lesson? 不要让孩子感到威胁，那会激起大脑的防御本能，要努力... 管理下属和管理孩子通用。 CONNECT and REDIRECT！孩子长期的行为比短期的结果更重要。 Ask three Questions: 1) Why they behave like this? 2) What lesson I want to teach? 3) How could I teach this lesson? 不要让孩子感到威胁，那会激起大脑的防御本能，要努力与理智的大脑对话。 先与孩子进行同理心沟通，建立同理的连接。 Connection is not spoiling。 要具体情况具体对待，没有可以通用的法则。 要首先让自己放松，孩子才能放松，比如坐到视线比孩子还低的地方。 要建立规矩，但不要太苛刻。安全规矩一定要遵守，其他的规则可以视情况有一些例外 (展开)
0 有用 小咿子 2023-12-05 03:26:44 美国
有时候可以放松一些，不用太拘泥于定的规则，视情况灵活应变。譬如晚上被噩梦惊醒的孩子，可以一起睡一晚，明天他们还是会睡自己床上。
0 有用 若依 2023-03-14 16:27:50 江苏
方法是好的，但太啰嗦了，我觉着四五页纸就能说清了
0 有用 海角的孤星 2023-01-16 21:57:31 浙江
正面管教，作为educator，be purposeful and consistent. 人和人重要的关系都是情感的链接，真诚地倾听别人，在意别人，把他纳入到对话体系。技巧性的steps都是基于尊重，爱，希望他变得更好（当然要更多的insight）
0 有用 swy12466 2022-03-22 11:38:10
赚焦虑父母（包括我在内）的钱真容易哈哈
0 有用 成裳 2021-12-29 12:56:06
写的略微有点啰嗦，但是实用tips还挺多的。真心感觉育儿的过程也在育己，也算是自己的二次成长了。