Imagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Psychologist Guy Winch urges us to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain, offering warm, wise, and witty advice for the broken-hearted.
Real heartbreak is unmistakable. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. Yet while we wouldn’t expect someo...
Imagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Psychologist Guy Winch urges us to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain, offering warm, wise, and witty advice for the broken-hearted.
Real heartbreak is unmistakable. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. Yet while we wouldn’t expect someone to return to daily activities immediately after suffering a broken limb, heartbroken people are expected to function normally in their lives, despite the emotional pain they feel. Now psychologist Guy Winch imagines how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotion—if only we can understand how heartbreak works, we can begin to fix it.
Through compelling research and new scientific studies, Winch reveals how and why heartbreak impacts our brain and our behavior in dramatic and unexpected ways, regardless of our age. Emotional pain lowers our ability to reason, to think creatively, to problem solve, and to function at our best. In How to Fix a Broken Heart he focuses on two types of emotional pain—romantic heartbreak and the heartbreak that results from the loss of a cherished pet. These experiences are both accompanied by severe grief responses, yet they are not deemed as important as, for example, a formal divorce or the loss of a close relative. As a result, we are often deprived of the recognition, support, and compassion afforded to those whose heartbreak is considered more significant.
Our heart might be broken, but we do not have to break with it. Winch reveals that recovering from heartbreak always starts with a decision, a determination to move on when our mind is fighting to keep us stuck. We can take control of our lives and our minds and put ourselves on the path to healing. Winch offers a toolkit on how to handle and cope with a broken heart and how to, eventually, move on.
作者简介
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Guy Winch is a licensed psychologist, speaker, and author whose books have been translated into fourteen languages. He received a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from New York University in 1991 and he has a private practice in Manhattan. He writes The Squeaky Wheel blog for PsychologyToday.com and he also blogs for Huffington Post. On the occasional dark and moonlit night, you mi...
Guy Winch is a licensed psychologist, speaker, and author whose books have been translated into fourteen languages. He received a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from New York University in 1991 and he has a private practice in Manhattan. He writes The Squeaky Wheel blog for PsychologyToday.com and he also blogs for Huffington Post. On the occasional dark and moonlit night, you might find him performing stand-up comedy in New York City.
“The storm of heartbreak strikes like a hurricane. ”
“Unlike real hurricanes, heartbreak has no eye—it offers no reprieve and it leaves no place to take shelter. ”
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“We want nothing more than to end our emotional pain, yet we indulge thoughts and behaviors that only deepen it. We feel dismissed, rejected, and abandoned, yet idealize the person who caused those fe...“We want nothing more than to end our emotional pain, yet we indulge thoughts and behaviors that only deepen it. We feel dismissed, rejected, and abandoned, yet idealize the person who caused those feelings. We’re desperate to move past our grief, yet we tenaciously hold on to reminders and keepsakes that keep us submerged in it.”
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1. Acknowledge the feelings no matter what breaks your heart even it's just a pet. Don't be apologetic or ashamed as all your feelings are justified and valid. It's completely personal. 2. Don't indulge yourself in the sorrow for an overly long time. Don't ...
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1 有用 Pissed Pax 2022-01-12 22:58:19
半本书都在给心碎正名：心碎时的大脑反应和身体承受“不能承受之痛”时的大脑反应是一样的，所以心碎时整个人失去功能是正常的，但环境和亲友往往不能给心碎的人足够支持，因为情感支持往往暗中标明了价格：对方应该在期待的时间内重新振作起来。也有具体的fix方法。比如self compassion，比较受启发的通过正念冥想来终止ruminate，正念并不是指清空思绪或者专注呼吸，而是练习将注意力放在感受当下所体... 半本书都在给心碎正名：心碎时的大脑反应和身体承受“不能承受之痛”时的大脑反应是一样的，所以心碎时整个人失去功能是正常的，但环境和亲友往往不能给心碎的人足够支持，因为情感支持往往暗中标明了价格：对方应该在期待的时间内重新振作起来。也有具体的fix方法。比如self compassion，比较受启发的通过正念冥想来终止ruminate，正念并不是指清空思绪或者专注呼吸，而是练习将注意力放在感受当下所体验的事物，学习指引大脑的运作，从而改变大脑一些既有习惯。另外，文笔优美，充满共情和关怀，插画也很优秀。 (展开)
0 有用 乌啦啦 2022-07-23 20:13:08
“We want nothing more than to end our emotional pain, yet we indulge thoughts and behaviors that only deepen it. We feel dismissed, rejected, and abandoned, yet idealize the person who caused those fe... “We want nothing more than to end our emotional pain, yet we indulge thoughts and behaviors that only deepen it. We feel dismissed, rejected, and abandoned, yet idealize the person who caused those feelings. We’re desperate to move past our grief, yet we tenaciously hold on to reminders and keepsakes that keep us submerged in it.” Very insightful. (展开)
0 有用 生猛游水海伦伦 2024-07-05 04:00:27 加拿大
心碎之后总能愈合
1 有用 Y 2018-12-04 02:11:55
不管是对心碎的我们还是心碎的朋友，我们都要给更多的包容和同情。当自己心碎的时候，下定决心走出来，并且采取措施，我们是有办法的！
0 有用 Y 2022-05-09 15:51:19
比作者在TED的演讲有帮助