Imagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Psychologist Guy Winch urges us to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain, offering warm, wise, and witty advice for the broken-hearted.
Real heartbreak is unmistakable. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. Yet while we wouldn’t expect someo...
Imagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Psychologist Guy Winch urges us to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain, offering warm, wise, and witty advice for the broken-hearted.
Real heartbreak is unmistakable. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. Yet while we wouldn’t expect someone to return to daily activities immediately after suffering a broken limb, heartbroken people are expected to function normally in their lives, despite the emotional pain they feel. Now psychologist Guy Winch imagines how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotion—if only we can understand how heartbreak works, we can begin to fix it.
Through compelling research and new scientific studies, Winch reveals how and why heartbreak impacts our brain and our behavior in dramatic and unexpected ways, regardless of our age. Emotional pain lowers our ability to reason, to think creatively, to problem solve, and to function at our best. In How to Fix a Broken Heart he focuses on two types of emotional pain—romantic heartbreak and the heartbreak that results from the loss of a cherished pet. These experiences are both accompanied by severe grief responses, yet they are not deemed as important as, for example, a formal divorce or the loss of a close relative. As a result, we are often deprived of the recognition, support, and compassion afforded to those whose heartbreak is considered more significant.
Our heart might be broken, but we do not have to break with it. Winch reveals that recovering from heartbreak always starts with a decision, a determination to move on when our mind is fighting to keep us stuck. We can take control of our lives and our minds and put ourselves on the path to healing. Winch offers a toolkit on how to handle and cope with a broken heart and how to, eventually, move on.
作者简介
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Guy Winch is a licensed psychologist, speaker, and author whose books have been translated into fourteen languages. He received a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from New York University in 1991 and he has a private practice in Manhattan. He writes The Squeaky Wheel blog for PsychologyToday.com and he also blogs for Huffington Post. On the occasional dark and moonlit night, you mi...
Guy Winch is a licensed psychologist, speaker, and author whose books have been translated into fourteen languages. He received a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from New York University in 1991 and he has a private practice in Manhattan. He writes The Squeaky Wheel blog for PsychologyToday.com and he also blogs for Huffington Post. On the occasional dark and moonlit night, you might find him performing stand-up comedy in New York City.
“The storm of heartbreak strikes like a hurricane. ”
“Unlike real hurricanes, heartbreak has no eye—it offers no reprieve and it leaves no place to take shelter. ”
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3.5 “What makes letting go so challenge is that we need to let go of far more than emotional pain-we need to let go of hope, of the fantasy in which we undo what went wrong, of the psychological prese...3.5 “What makes letting go so challenge is that we need to let go of far more than emotional pain-we need to let go of hope, of the fantasy in which we undo what went wrong, of the psychological presence the person or pet has in our daily thoughts, and thus, in our lives.”(展开)
Short, simple, and practical. Time isn’t the only cure, sometimes our mind tricks us to get worse or even to chronic depression. Decision and practice accelerate the healing process.
“We want nothing more than to end our emotional pain, yet we indulge thoughts and behaviors that only deepen it. We feel dismissed, rejected, and abandoned, yet idealize the person who caused those fe...“We want nothing more than to end our emotional pain, yet we indulge thoughts and behaviors that only deepen it. We feel dismissed, rejected, and abandoned, yet idealize the person who caused those feelings. We’re desperate to move past our grief, yet we tenaciously hold on to reminders and keepsakes that keep us submerged in it.”
Very insightful. (展开)
1. Acknowledge the feelings no matter what breaks your heart even it's just a pet. Don't be apologetic or ashamed as all your feelings are justified and valid. It's completely personal. 2. Don't indulge yourself in the sorrow for an overly long time. Don't ...
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0 有用 DAWN 2022-07-21 19:04:44
It’s an active and effortful process of continuously bringing the focus back to my life and accepting the end of a chapter. Great practice.
0 有用 🧘🏿♀️ 2021-12-31 14:19:37
3.5 “What makes letting go so challenge is that we need to let go of far more than emotional pain-we need to let go of hope, of the fantasy in which we undo what went wrong, of the psychological prese... 3.5 “What makes letting go so challenge is that we need to let go of far more than emotional pain-we need to let go of hope, of the fantasy in which we undo what went wrong, of the psychological presence the person or pet has in our daily thoughts, and thus, in our lives.” (展开)
0 有用 Yuna 2022-01-25 01:36:32
最感触的是作者表达的对读者作为你、作为一个人（而不是一个人类）的关怀。
8 有用 荧光鳞片君 2018-10-18 01:52:08
Short, simple, and practical. Time isn’t the only cure, sometimes our mind tricks us to get worse or even to chronic depression. Decision and practice accelerate the healing process.
0 有用 执墨 2020-06-26 00:22:11
how??
0 有用 良吉吉Bee 2024-03-07 12:33:36 美国
很短很适合推荐给受困扰但又很忙的知识分子
0 有用 raphael 2023-12-10 04:01:20 美国
7.5
0 有用 phliLOV 2023-11-24 20:04:28 美国
the dating field is littered with broken hearts.
0 有用 Amelie的白日梦 2022-12-23 14:46:19 上海
How to Fix a Broken Heart
0 有用 momo 2022-07-23 20:13:08
“We want nothing more than to end our emotional pain, yet we indulge thoughts and behaviors that only deepen it. We feel dismissed, rejected, and abandoned, yet idealize the person who caused those fe... “We want nothing more than to end our emotional pain, yet we indulge thoughts and behaviors that only deepen it. We feel dismissed, rejected, and abandoned, yet idealize the person who caused those feelings. We’re desperate to move past our grief, yet we tenaciously hold on to reminders and keepsakes that keep us submerged in it.” Very insightful. (展开)