Betty, what's the danger in letting me matter to you?
I am not sure. It feels scary, like I'll need you too much. I'm not sure you'll be there for me. I'm going to have to leave California in a year, remember?"
A year's a long time. So you avoid me now because you won't always have me?
I know it doesn't make sense. But I do the same thing with California. I like New York and I don't want to like California. I'm afraid that, if I form friends here and start to like it, I might not want to leave. The other thing is that I start to feel "Why bother?" I'm here for such a short time. Who wants temporary friendships?
The problem with that attitude is you end up with an unpeopled life. Maybe that's part of the reason you feel empty inside. One way or another, every relationship must end. Ther... (查看原文)
I DO NOT LIKE to work with patients who are in love. Perhaps it is because of envy——I, too, crave enchantment. Perhaps it is because love and psychotherapy are fundamentally incompatible. The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles upon inspection. I hate to be love's executioner. (查看原文)
Thought-provoking and insightful, Dr. Yalom's love's executioner is brimmed with wisdom, vulnerability and reflection about life and psychotherapy. It has been a blessing reading through this book both as a psychotherapist and a human myself. This book not ...
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对一个人至情不渝、死心塌地，并不是象一般人认为的足以证明纯情挚爱。这种画地自限、容不下一粒砂的爱，只能“食爱而活”，既不知付出，也不知有对方，注定要自掘坟墓。爱不仅仅是两个人迸出的热情火花。陷入情网（falling in love）与立足于爱心(standing in love)两者何止天壤之别。正确地说，爱是一种生命之道，是“付出”，不是“陷入”，是广结善缘，不是作茧自缚。引自 作者序
我的假设是：根本的焦虑源于个人千方百计——也许是自觉的、也许是不自觉的——要解决生活中难以接受的事实，要解决生存的“”既定事实（“Givens” of existence） 我发现有四个既定事实与心理治疗最为息息相关：我们每一个人以及我们所爱的人必然都会面临死亡；我们必须按自己的意愿营生的自由；我们终归是孑然一身的孤独；以及人生并无显而易见的意义可言。(2回应)
2013-06-22 17:31:44
我的假设是：根本的焦虑源于个人千方百计——也许是自觉的、也许是不自觉的——要解决生活中难以接受的事实，要解决生存的“”既定事实（“Givens” of existence）
我发现有四个既定事实与心理治疗最为息息相关：我们每一个人以及我们所爱的人必然都会面临死亡；我们必须按自己的意愿营生的自由；我们终归是孑然一身的孤独；以及人生并无显而易见的意义可言。引自 作者序
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6 有用 漂流西风 2012-09-23 11:31:03
吐槽一下翻译，译者为了显示辞藻华丽不惜扰乱文法结构，好多病句。。。
0 有用 红豆泥 2014-10-16 12:34:22
好书蒙尘，书名太差，没能体现内容的精彩绝伦。10个心理咨询案例，大师娓娓道来，让我更懂自己。
1 有用 Version 2013-03-29 18:33:14
欧文告诉了我四个与心理诊疗息息相关的事实：死亡，自由，孤独，人生并无意义。
0 有用 滚滚 2014-07-11 09:20:32
放下屠刀
3 有用 丹朱AI🌵 2015-05-12 17:43:23
十个案例，十个故事，关于生老病死。书名掩盖了内容，与其说是爱情侩子手，不如说是幻觉侩子手，驱散温情脉脉的迷雾，直面人生的自由、孤独、无意义。但是我想问，真相真的那么重要吗？
0 有用 流沙包很好吃 2022-06-18 21:35:50
序很好看，正文的话就像是看故事，可以先看正文再看序
0 有用 笔芯君 2022-02-02 19:25:14
我决定从她讳莫如深的心态着手，在不知不觉的情况下引蛇出洞再猛然棒喝。
0 有用 晓天 2021-11-24 10:36:25
常读常新
0 有用 奇 2021-08-07 15:52:54
书是好书，遗憾的是被出版社给毁了。作为一个科普书，却被塑造成一个故事会的模样，真为这本书可惜。几乎完全不搭边的译名，可怕的封面设计，完全控制不住自己“文人心”的翻译。 书的内容可以给五星，推荐买其他译本。
0 有用 tt 2021-06-21 23:55:31
打卡完成心理咨询师布置的作业