Betty, what's the danger in letting me matter to you?
I am not sure. It feels scary, like I'll need you too much. I'm not sure you'll be there for me. I'm going to have to leave California in a year, remember?"
A year's a long time. So you avoid me now because you won't always have me?
I know it doesn't make sense. But I do the same thing with California. I like New York and I don't want to like California. I'm afraid that, if I form friends here and start to like it, I might not want to leave. The other thing is that I start to feel "Why bother?" I'm here for such a short time. Who wants temporary friendships?
The problem with that attitude is you end up with an unpeopled life. Maybe that's part of the reason you feel empty inside. One way or another, every relationship must end. Ther... (查看原文)
I DO NOT LIKE to work with patients who are in love. Perhaps it is because of envy——I, too, crave enchantment. Perhaps it is because love and psychotherapy are fundamentally incompatible. The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles upon inspection. I hate to be love's executioner. (查看原文)
Thought-provoking and insightful, Dr. Yalom's love's executioner is brimmed with wisdom, vulnerability and reflection about life and psychotherapy. It has been a blessing reading through this book both as a psychotherapist and a human myself. This book not ...
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欧文·亚隆 作者
NARUMI
海南出版社1997版
瓜瓜
HarpPerenM2000版
Vveronica薇
Basic Books2012版
娜是我
海南出版社1997版
1 有用 meiya 2013-11-19 16:40:13
亚龙写的心理治疗小说真的很不错，既通俗又精彩
1 有用 cheervivian 2012-05-05 14:31:02
没有吕健忠的版好
0 有用 Elact 2015-08-03 07:08:55
10个心理咨询故事，作者亚隆是咨询师行业的大牛，文笔也好。序言的分析精辟的让我五体投地。唯一遗憾的就是晦涩，没有清晰的脉络分析。
2 有用 33度怀抱大树 2015-02-07 17:50:25
对于我来说，这本书比当尼采要实用许多。欧文亚龙在写这本书时从业未深，书中更多是一个年轻咨询师的诚意与真性情。诊疗案例中对自己的移情与反移情毫不讳言，对病症的反思和对自己的觉察之深，早早昭示了大师在灵性的解读和把握方面充满天赋。
3 有用 🧡勞小姐🧡 2018-07-27 21:13:09
-_-亚隆认为，上道的心理医生力斥暗味无明，进而寻求启悟发蒙。曼蒂克的爱情却是靠朦胧的感觉来维系，一旦睁眼细察就会毁于一旦。所以才把自己自诩为“爱情的侩子手”。读亚隆的书，明明是想向他去讨点“咨询经验”，却会在阅读得过程中被他感动、得到疗愈。他敢于真实的自我剖析，让我们有机会看到一个咨询师的在面对不同病人时的心路历程。会让你觉得，啊，原来大师也有这样的疑虑，也有过不去的坎。也会有自我怀疑和厌倦病人... -_-亚隆认为，上道的心理医生力斥暗味无明，进而寻求启悟发蒙。曼蒂克的爱情却是靠朦胧的感觉来维系，一旦睁眼细察就会毁于一旦。所以才把自己自诩为“爱情的侩子手”。读亚隆的书，明明是想向他去讨点“咨询经验”，却会在阅读得过程中被他感动、得到疗愈。他敢于真实的自我剖析，让我们有机会看到一个咨询师的在面对不同病人时的心路历程。会让你觉得，啊，原来大师也有这样的疑虑，也有过不去的坎。也会有自我怀疑和厌倦病人的时候。看着他的文字，想象着他的慈祥和温暖，自己也会不由自主地自信和温暖了起来。 (展开)
0 有用 RR 2024-04-21 19:45:33 上海
每个人有每个人的问题
0 有用 guitarelline 2024-04-06 18:40:43 上海
非常实用的咨询指南
0 有用 138****5797 2024-03-16 11:09:50 北京
值得一读。就算亚隆这样的高级咨询师，也不是手到病除的，他也一样困惑，也一样在迷雾中打转。
0 有用 Should_will 2024-02-22 00:29:39 上海
只给第一个故事打分。太喜欢这个真实的故事了，欧文亚隆的叙述让我脑袋里直接放电影了。过度回忆美好瞬间是对现实生活的逃避。以及原来心理治疗师工作的过程中很多时候也是痛苦的。
0 有用 longlingzhi99 2024-02-03 05:49:54 广东
我发现在心理治疗中，有四种存在性关怀尤为重要：我们及挚爱终有一死、生活不如我们所愿的那样自由、我们终极的孤独，及生命的无意义感。