Betty, what's the danger in letting me matter to you?
I am not sure. It feels scary, like I'll need you too much. I'm not sure you'll be there for me. I'm going to have to leave California in a year, remember?"
A year's a long time. So you avoid me now because you won't always have me?
I know it doesn't make sense. But I do the same thing with California. I like New York and I don't want to like California. I'm afraid that, if I form friends here and start to like it, I might not want to leave. The other thing is that I start to feel "Why bother?" I'm here for such a short time. Who wants temporary friendships?
The problem with that attitude is you end up with an unpeopled life. Maybe that's part of the reason you feel empty inside. One way or another, every relationship must end. Ther... (查看原文)
I DO NOT LIKE to work with patients who are in love. Perhaps it is because of envy——I, too, crave enchantment. Perhaps it is because love and psychotherapy are fundamentally incompatible. The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles upon inspection. I hate to be love's executioner. (查看原文)
Thought-provoking and insightful, Dr. Yalom's love's executioner is brimmed with wisdom, vulnerability and reflection about life and psychotherapy. It has been a blessing reading through this book both as a psychotherapist and a human myself. This book not ...
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欧文·亚隆 作者
NARUMI
海南出版社1997版
瓜瓜
HarpPerenM2000版
露比娜娜
Basic Books2012版
娜是我
海南出版社1997版
2 有用 33度怀抱大树 2015-02-07 17:50:25
对于我来说，这本书比当尼采要实用许多。欧文亚龙在写这本书时从业未深，书中更多是一个年轻咨询师的诚意与真性情。诊疗案例中对自己的移情与反移情毫不讳言，对病症的反思和对自己的觉察之深，早早昭示了大师在灵性的解读和把握方面充满天赋。
10 有用 信电影得永生 2016-05-30 15:41:14
教学案例小说。 存在、死亡、焦虑，即便之前从未遇到，有天你们也终会相逢。五星。
2 有用 春和景明小天菜 2013-01-21 13:04:25
漆黑的夜晚里，我独自乘坐着小船飘荡在港湾里，我看见很多其它船只的灯光，我知道我没法到他们那里，也没法加入他们，但是看到这些灯光在海湾里跃动是多么令人安慰。
2 有用 恒沙 2010-11-23 17:08:42
撕碎别人心中对爱情的幻觉，是刽子手式的残忍，也是最大的慈悲。
72 有用 丫丫 2009-11-29 00:40:28
“她会如此痴迷，部分原因应该是她生命的其他部分太贫瘠。若不先帮助她丰富人生的其他领域，我想恐怕很难让她从痴迷中走出来”