Betty, what's the danger in letting me matter to you?
I am not sure. It feels scary, like I'll need you too much. I'm not sure you'll be there for me. I'm going to have to leave California in a year, remember?"
A year's a long time. So you avoid me now because you won't always have me?
I know it doesn't make sense. But I do the same thing with California. I like New York and I don't want to like California. I'm afraid that, if I form friends here and start to like it, I might not want to leave. The other thing is that I start to feel "Why bother?" I'm here for such a short time. Who wants temporary friendships?
The problem with that attitude is you end up with an unpeopled life. Maybe that's part of the reason you feel empty inside. One way or another, every relationship must end. Ther... (查看原文)
I DO NOT LIKE to work with patients who are in love. Perhaps it is because of envy——I, too, crave enchantment. Perhaps it is because love and psychotherapy are fundamentally incompatible. The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles upon inspection. I hate to be love's executioner. (查看原文)
Thought-provoking and insightful, Dr. Yalom's love's executioner is brimmed with wisdom, vulnerability and reflection about life and psychotherapy. It has been a blessing reading through this book both as a psychotherapist and a human myself. This book not ...
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欧文·亚隆 作者
Richard
海南出版社1997版
瓜瓜
HarpPerenM2000版
露比娜娜
Basic Books2012版
娜是我
海南出版社1997版
13 有用 果媛子 2009-05-08 12:37:38
这本书有点被吹过头了。
1 有用 予渊 2014-04-24 13:43:51
比哲学家系列还好
2 有用 漫吞吞 2020-08-15 16:47:39
我的观点就是，不会写的人不要给会写的人写序。废纸废墨的。这本比他和来访者互相写信那本好看多了，亚隆是讲故事界的翘楚，然后我就分不清是对咨询和人的发展感兴趣，还是纯喜欢听故事。我不知道这些在咨询路上可以做地标的人是有多强大的意志和丰沛的情感容量，可以面对这么多糟粕还能提炼出精华写成引人入胜的故事，现实中的咨询只会更气滞更黏腻晦暗枯槁。可能是因为报销吧，所以大家坚持个三年五年甚至十年二十年的。得意识到... 我的观点就是，不会写的人不要给会写的人写序。废纸废墨的。这本比他和来访者互相写信那本好看多了，亚隆是讲故事界的翘楚，然后我就分不清是对咨询和人的发展感兴趣，还是纯喜欢听故事。我不知道这些在咨询路上可以做地标的人是有多强大的意志和丰沛的情感容量，可以面对这么多糟粕还能提炼出精华写成引人入胜的故事，现实中的咨询只会更气滞更黏腻晦暗枯槁。可能是因为报销吧，所以大家坚持个三年五年甚至十年二十年的。得意识到有人听你说话是件多奢侈的事，能听懂就更奢侈了。“不只是过去永远失落，未来也封闭无路。”这是很多人一旦被开启被触动最容易出现的状态。咨询为什么要付费，要丁是丁卯是卯，最好不要搞人情往来那一套，是因为不花钱的东西，不付出代价的东西你不珍惜。多少人有女出租车司机那种觉悟，又有多少人能遇到欧文亚隆。 (展开)
1 有用 熊脑脑 2013-04-02 10:52:38
翻译蛮有味道的 但怎么错别字这么多
2 有用 夏一慕 2013-11-14 21:22:35
彭萦在邮件里推荐的电子书，读完了。总能这样那样看到大家和自己都有过的“崩溃”。