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John Gottman 出版社: Three Rivers Press 副标题: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships 出版年: 2002-6-25 页数: 336 定价: USD 15.00 装帧: Paperback ISBN: 9780609809532
A groundbreaking, practical program for transforming troubled relationships into positive ones
“This is the best book on relationships I have ever read. . . . John Gottman has decoded the subtle secrets that can either enrich or destroy the quality of our ties with others.” Daniel B. Wile, Ph.D., author of After the Fight: Using Your Disagreements to Build a Stronger Relation...
A groundbreaking, practical program for transforming troubled relationships into positive ones
“This is the best book on relationships I have ever read. . . . John Gottman has decoded the subtle secrets that can either enrich or destroy the quality of our ties with others.” Daniel B. Wile, Ph.D., author of After the Fight: Using Your Disagreements to Build a Stronger Relationship
“John Gottman is our leading explorer of the inner world of relationships. In The Relationship Cure , he has found gold once again.”William J. Doherty, Ph.D., author of Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart
“When he says his five steps will help you build better connections with the people you care about, you know that they have been demonstrated to work.” E. Mavis Heatherington, Ph.D., professor of psychology, University of Virginia
From the country’s foremost relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John M. Gottman comes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your life—with spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. In The Relationship Cure , Dr. Gottman:
* Reveals the key elements of healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of what he calls “emotional connection”
* Introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional “bid,” the fundamental unit of emotional connection
* Provides remarkably empowering tools for improving the way you bid for emotional connection and how you respond to others’ bids
John Gottman is our leading explorer of the inner world of relationships. In The Relationship Cure, he has found gold once again. This book shows how the simplest, nearly invisible gestures of care and attention hold the key to successful relationships with those we love and work with.
◆01 你的 “司令” 活跃度测试
下面的测试可以帮你检测你理想中的 “司令” 指令系统的活跃程度。请圈出最符合自己情况的选项：A 完全同意；B 同意；C 中立；D 不同意；E 完全不同意。
1. 我有时很享受挑战。A B C D E
2. 我绝对不允许别人拿走属于我的东西。 A B C D E
3. 我总喜欢伸张正义。 A B C D E
4. 我会不择手段地实现自己的目标。 A B C D E
5. 如果有人阻碍我实现目标，我会生气。 A B C D E
6. 面对挫折，我知道如何应对并继续为实现目标而努力。 A B C D E
7. 我很欣赏自己的坚定和自信。 A B C D E
8. 我很容易动怒。 A B C D E
9. 我很享受发号施令的感觉。 A B C D E
10. 面对阻碍，我经常怒气冲天。 A B C D E
11. 开车时，我很容易动怒。 A B C D E
12. 我有时很享受生气的感觉。 A B C D E
13. 我很讨厌等待，很容易失去耐心。 A B C D E
14. 集体活动时，我享受有权力的感觉。 A B C D E
15. 集体活动时，我能很好地控制自我。 A B C D E
16. 必要时，我会要求自己应享受的权利。 A B C D E
17. 面对阻挠，我不会轻易退缩。 A B C D E
18. 我会铲除威胁到我的威严的人。 A B C D E
19. 我喜欢参与有意义的辩论。 A B C D E
20. 竞争中，赢就是我的目标。 A B C D E
21. 我不参加没把握赢的竞争活动。 A B C D E
22. 我很喜欢竞争。 A B C D E
23. 如果有人同台竞争，我斗志更强烈。 A B C D E
24. 我认为把工作做好是一个征服的过程。 A B C D E
25. 我喜欢当指挥者。 A B C D E
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