From leading psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff comes a step-by-step guide explaining how to be more self-compassionate and achieve your dreams in life
The relentless pursuit of high self-esteem has become a virtual religion—and a tyrannical one at that. Our ultracompetitive culture tells us we need to be constantly above average to feel good about ourselves, but there is always som...
From leading psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff comes a step-by-step guide explaining how to be more self-compassionate and achieve your dreams in life
The relentless pursuit of high self-esteem has become a virtual religion—and a tyrannical one at that. Our ultracompetitive culture tells us we need to be constantly above average to feel good about ourselves, but there is always someone more attractive, successful, or intelligent than we are. And even when we do manage to grab hold of high self-esteem for a brief moment, we can't seem to keep it. Our sense of self-worth goes up and down like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling in lockstep with our latest success or failure.
Fortunately, there is an alternative to self-esteem that many experts believe is a better and more effective path to happiness: self-compassion. The research of Dr. Kristin Neff and other leading psychologists indicates that people who are compassionate toward their failings and imperfections experience greater well-being than those who repeatedly judge themselves. The feelings of security and self-worth provided by self-compassion are also highly stable, kicking in precisely when self-esteem falls down. This book powerfully demonstrates why it's so important to be self-compassionate and give yourself the same caring support you'd give to a good friend.
This groundbreaking work will show you how to let go of debilitating self-criticism and finally learn to be kind to yourself. Using solid empirical research, personal stories, practical exercises, and humor, Dr. Neff—the world's foremost expert on self-compassion—explains how to heal destructive emotional patterns so that you can be healthier, happier, and more effective. Engaging, highly readable, and eminently accessible, this book has the power to change your life.
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Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor in Human Development and Culture at the University of Texas at Austin.
During Kristin’s last year of graduate school in 1997 she became interested in Buddhism, and has been practicing meditation in the Insight Meditation tradition ever since. While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a cent...
Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor in Human Development and Culture at the University of Texas at Austin.
During Kristin’s last year of graduate school in 1997 she became interested in Buddhism, and has been practicing meditation in the Insight Meditation tradition ever since. While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically.
Her book titled Self-Compassion was published by William Morrow in April, 2011.
Self-appreciation and self-compassion are really two sides of the same coin. One is focused on what brings us pleasure, the other on what brings us suffering. One celebrates us our strengths as humans, the other accepts our weaknesses. What really matters is that our hearts and minds are open. Rather than continually evaluating, comparing, resisting, obsessing, and distorting-- we simply open. Open to seeing ourselves and our lives exactly as they are, in all their glory and ignominy. Open to the love of all creation, ourselves included, without exception.
As we walk through the triumphs and tragedies of lives, we relate to everything with kindness. We feel our interconnectedness with everyone and everything. We become aware of the present moment without judgement. We experience the full s... (查看原文)
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0 有用 米开朗 2024-03-25 00:35:23 美国
上下班路上听听给自已洗脑。洗脑效果一般。
0 有用 momo 2022-04-10 19:57:58
是一本教人如何具体爱自己的书。其中一些小练习很有帮助。前面那个写信的练习帮我完全的接纳了自己。后面情侣吵架中的self-compassion break应该也很有用， 有机会试一试。
0 有用 未时 2019-01-24 12:22:08
给别人戴上氧气罩之前，先把自己的氧气罩戴好。// 没事多听听Chapter 8
2 有用 taxi & donut 2019-07-08 16:41:58
一个therapist推荐的。每章节后都有作者的my stories，即作者自述自己跌宕的人生经历和如何在实践中运用self-compassion，真诚感人。其他讲technicality 的部分有点啰嗦。结合最近看的其他书，似乎mindfulness是万物之宗啊 lol （第一次用速度法看书，感觉可以
2 有用 Eudaimonia 2020-07-09 06:16:47
18年年底反复重听，对后来积极向上写完博士论文有巨大帮助的一本书。感谢好友赠书。