Betty, what's the danger in letting me matter to you?
I am not sure. It feels scary, like I'll need you too much. I'm not sure you'll be there for me. I'm going to have to leave California in a year, remember?"
A year's a long time. So you avoid me now because you won't always have me?
I know it doesn't make sense. But I do the same thing with California. I like New York and I don't want to like California. I'm afraid that, if I form friends here and start to like it, I might not want to leave. The other thing is that I start to feel "Why bother?" I'm here for such a short time. Who wants temporary friendships?
The problem with that attitude is you end up with an unpeopled life. Maybe that's part of the reason you feel empty inside. One way or another, every relationship must end. Ther... (查看原文)
I DO NOT LIKE to work with patients who are in love. Perhaps it is because of envy——I, too, crave enchantment. Perhaps it is because love and psychotherapy are fundamentally incompatible. The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles upon inspection. I hate to be love's executioner. (查看原文)
Thought-provoking and insightful, Dr. Yalom's love's executioner is brimmed with wisdom, vulnerability and reflection about life and psychotherapy. It has been a blessing reading through this book both as a psychotherapist and a human myself. This book not ...
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欧文·亚隆 作者
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HarpPerenM2000版
露比娜娜
Basic Books2012版
娜是我
0 有用 比哈特 2014-10-16 12:34:22
好书蒙尘，书名太差，没能体现内容的精彩绝伦。10个心理咨询案例，大师娓娓道来，让我更懂自己。
4 有用 大鲤鱼（丹AI） 2015-05-12 17:43:23
十个案例，十个故事，关于生老病死。书名掩盖了内容，与其说是爱情侩子手，不如说是幻觉侩子手，驱散温情脉脉的迷雾，直面人生的自由、孤独、无意义。但是我想问，真相真的那么重要吗？
0 有用 petit maïs 2013-10-06 20:45:27
这个装帧对不起亚隆啊！
0 有用 [已注销] 2011-11-23 18:39:48
这本书一路看下来，也是我自己心灵成长之旅。有很多感悟、很多体会。写了很多读书笔记，都在里面了。是让我学到最多的书了！真心力荐！
1 有用 dlf 2023-05-15 07:56:49 美国
第一次看亚隆的书，首先感到的是作者也太诚恳了，对自己内心想法毫不保留，甚至是一些可能会被认为阴暗的想法都一一写下。其次是反而看后对心理咨询的有效性开始存疑，书中几个故事最终都是靠外在事件来推动解决的（比如第一个故事和另外一个讲一个学者担心自己被别人怀疑人品有问题的），心理咨询在其中起到了什么作用，真是很难说。被第一个故事吸引因为我所要解决的问题和这个故事很像，所以看到最后反而愈加迷惑。。。不过其中... 第一次看亚隆的书，首先感到的是作者也太诚恳了，对自己内心想法毫不保留，甚至是一些可能会被认为阴暗的想法都一一写下。其次是反而看后对心理咨询的有效性开始存疑，书中几个故事最终都是靠外在事件来推动解决的（比如第一个故事和另外一个讲一个学者担心自己被别人怀疑人品有问题的），心理咨询在其中起到了什么作用，真是很难说。被第一个故事吸引因为我所要解决的问题和这个故事很像，所以看到最后反而愈加迷惑。。。不过其中关于生命的其他部分积弱不振的判断很准确。我很喜欢作者在引言里说的我们的焦虑源自四个既定事实：死亡的必定性、对自由的追求、终究是孤独的感受、和人生并无显而易见的意义。对现在的我来说最后一点尤其绝望，但是亚隆提供的解决方案倒是开辟了另一条思路，即要使这一类的问题变得无关紧要。所以要充实自己的生命 (展开)