出版社: Hudson Street Press (an imprint of Penguin Group (USA) Inc)
副标题: How We Can Reach Our Goals
出版年: 2010-12-23
页数: 288
定价: GBP 19.78
装帧: Hardcover
ISBN: 9781594630736
内容简介 · · · · · ·
Most of us have no idea why we fail to reach our goals. Now eminent social psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson shows us how we can finally win by revealing how goals really work -- and by showing us how to avoid what typically goes wrong.
Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson offers insights -- many surprising -- that listeners can use immediately, including how to:
Set a goal so tha...
Most of us have no idea why we fail to reach our goals. Now eminent social psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson shows us how we can finally win by revealing how goals really work -- and by showing us how to avoid what typically goes wrong.
Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson offers insights -- many surprising -- that listeners can use immediately, including how to:
Set a goal so that you will persist even in the face of adversity
Build willpower, which can be strengthened like a muscle
Avoid the kind of positive thinking that makes people fail
The strategies outlined in this book will not only help everyone reach their own goals but will also prove invaluable to parents, teachers, coaches, and employers. Dr. Grant Halvorson shows listeners a new approach to problem solving that will change the way they approach their entire lives.
作者简介 · · · · · ·
海蒂•格兰特•霍尔沃森(Heidi Grant Halvorson)
美国哥伦比亚大学社会心理学博士;现任哥伦比亚大学动机学科学中心副主任。
多次在权威学术杂志以及BBC、《哈佛商业评论》等重量级媒介发表学术成果。
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- 全书精髓 - 制定和实现目标的动机:爱和安全。人的一生渴望爱与归属感,具体的说,我们要的东西和得到的过程是要能体现关联感、胜任力和自主权的,追求亲密关系、追求个人能力成长和追求自由选择,人的一生都在这些动机之间周旋。 - 正确的目标和平衡两种目标:相信人可... (展开)


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本书书有三个特点 一、专业、正确--作者是社会心理学家,书籍内容来源成百上千篇学术报告 二、有趣--每个心理学相关的知识都附带很多实际有趣的例子,还有很多作者与丈夫、父母间的斗智斗勇,例:为了让抠门丈夫给自己买昂贵礼物,改变遛弯路线…… 三、操作性强--不需要复杂的... (展开)> 更多书评90篇
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01-29 Succeed 书摘 上回说到,我们要如何确定目标,不要用“做到最好”这样比较泛泛的目标,要确立具体的足够困难且合理的目标;建立高效能循环。 今天想跟大家分享的是两个值得思考的点: 一、 为什么做vs.去做什么Why vs. What 二、 期限长短(deadline)对人思考和 决定的影响 一、 为什么做vs.去做什么 Why vs. What 同一个目标或者行为,我们既可以粗犷地描述(Big Picture)也可以具体地描述(Nitty-Gritty)...
2017-01-29 21:37 1人喜欢
01-29 Succeed 书摘上回说到,我们要如何确定目标,不要用“做到最好”这样比较泛泛的目标,要确立具体的足够困难且合理的目标;建立高效能循环。今天想跟大家分享的是两个值得思考的点:一、 为什么做vs.去做什么Why vs. What二、 期限长短(deadline)对人思考和决定的影响一、 为什么做vs.去做什么Why vs. What同一个目标或者行为,我们既可以粗犷地描述(Big Picture)也可以具体地描述(Nitty-Gritty)。我们来举个栗子说明一下这二者的区别。比如在做设计作业的时候,同样是“学好设计”这个目标,“我要做一个很厉害的方案”就是大体上的描述,“明天要给老师看3个材质的模型”就是具体的描述。再比如同样是“保持身体健康”,“健康饮食,早睡早起,多多运动”就是大体上的描述;“每晚七点后不进食,十一点一熄灯就睡觉,每周三次有氧运动”这是相对具体的描述。这其实是两种思考方式的差别,即Why型和What型。这两种思考方式都是准确无误的,没有对错之分,但确实不同,适用条件不同。 Why型思考更容易让人坚持,比如在高中的时候,总是会想“上了大学就解放了呀!”所以苦点儿累点儿也心甘情愿。不过对于那些困难复杂,而且我们不熟悉的陌生领域,What则更有优势。在完成一些困难的事情的时候,我们会本能地更倾向于聚焦于“具体行为”,而不是“意义”。搬家的时候,搬一个巨沉的柜子的时候,我们更多的是在想“把柜子倾斜一下,从下边抬起来,慢慢走,别嗑到墙”这些具体的行为,而不会想“我在创造一个更好的环境”。但是,在我看来,有的时候聚焦于具体行为,反而会看不到问题的本质和其背后的意义,比如那个老套的职场故事,老板跟A说要办年终晚会,打算买点儿苹果,让他去问问价钱,A飞快的问完之后告诉了上级,然后老板把同样的事安排给了B,过了一会儿B回来之后说:“苹果价钱是XX,香蕉和梨的价钱我也问了一下,是XX,如果买够多少多少,还能给优惠,如果不方便的话,还可以多加XX钱包送,另外,我觉得晚会的话,可以搞一个水果拼盘大赛,比单纯的吃水果形式更好,也很有乐趣……”B的思考方式是从目的出发的,(为什么要买水果?买水果是为了晚会更好,既然是为了让晚会更好,那么只买苹果显然不够吧?做个水果游戏会不会让晚会效果更好呢?) A不被比下去,就是对B死去脑细胞的亵渎了。但是另一方面来讲,What式思维更有助于提高行动速度,且在目标困难的时候,能提高行动效率。(在前途不明确的时候,what式的具体的没头苍蝇一样的尝试会比想很多意义更有效,但是随着获得的信息越来越多,越来越熟练,就要更多地考虑why式方向与目的层面的问题,否则就可能南辕北辙,做无用功。)二、 期限长短(deadline)对人思考和决定的影响距离实际执行的日期长短也是影响我们选用Why或是What模式的一个重要因素。举个很常见的例子来说,大家刚来大学的时候都会说,“我本来是打算上XX大学的,到了高三才发现,还是现实一点,上个XXXX大学吧”最开始的时候,离deadline还很远的时候,人会更常见的设立“高期望的目标”,随着deadline的临近,我们会更倾向于调整为“高可能性的目标”。这就是deadline对我们思考模式和决定的影响。书中提到一个小技巧还是很实用的,就是用一个月之后的视角来看待当下的行为。比如复习周的时候,我不想复习,就会想等我放假了,就没人管了哈哈哈,现在累一点儿也就累这一周,但是回家能耍一个月,就会多一点儿复习的动力。另外,如果同学你更经常被拖延症困扰的话,What模式可能是一剂良药,书中提到了一个实验,两组本科生,之前进行了不同思维模式的引导,一组不断强化Why的思考模式,让他们写出10个类似于“新创一个银行账户”“写日记”,并写出每个行为的意义;另一组则是让写出这十件事都怎么做。在这之后,要求两组人员回去完成一份电子问卷并在三周内给予email反馈,最终发现what式的人员回复速度比why式人员平均提早10天甚至两周。所以“拖延症”并不只是行为习惯的原因,背后更是思维习惯的原因。集中注意力在具体的行为上,多考虑“花几步才能把大象装进冰箱”,而不是想“大象TMD怎么能装进冰箱?!”,能够帮助你更快的完成任务,向万恶的拖延症说再见!最后还有两种思维方式的适用情况表格回应 2017-01-29 21:37 -
Regeneration (俱懷逸興壯思飛,欲上青天攬明月)
1. specific and difficult but possible goal 2. "big picture" (why) v.s. "nitty-gritty" (what) - get up early; - be a early-riser, work more, healthy, show my self-displine; - write the lit review; work on the network formation; - sit down and start typing, write down the first sentence, first paragraph to get something to revise; work on the first theorem or example. 3. Time in the why-what tr...2017-05-22 21:31
1. specific and difficult but possible goal
2. "big picture" (why) v.s. "nitty-gritty" (what)
- get up early;
- be a early-riser, work more, healthy, show my self-displine;
- write the lit review; work on the network formation;
- sit down and start typing, write down the first sentence, first paragraph to get something to revise; work on the first theorem or example.
3. Time in the why-what trade-off
4. Positive thinking: believe that you can do it and that the road will be rocky.
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we work best when as much of what we are doing can be delegated to the unconscious mind as possible. And typically, the more we do something, the more automatic it becomes—the more it is controlled by our uncouscious thought. Delegating goal pursuit to the unconscious parts of the mind is a great way to free up mental space and energy for all the things that constantly require your attention. ...
2017-05-03 18:02
we work best when as much of what we are doing can be delegated to the unconscious mind as possible. And typically, the more we do something, the more automatic it becomes—the more it is controlled by our uncouscious thought.
Delegating goal pursuit to the unconscious parts of the mind is a great way to free up mental space and energy for all the things that constantly require your attention.
把一个行为或一件事反复练习,养成习惯,直至把这些行为内化成“潜意识”,这样会大量节省willpower or control of self。
之后再不断更新习惯。
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Then what is the best way to set goals so that you will reach them, without getting stuck daydreaming? The optimal strategy to use when setting a goal seems to be to think positively about how it will be when you achieve your goal, while thinking realistically about whati it will take to get there. Oettinggen refers to this as mental constrasting— first you image attaining your goal, and then ...
2017-05-03 16:29
Then what is the best way to set goals so that you will reach them, without getting stuck daydreaming? The optimal strategy to use when setting a goal seems to be to think positively about how it will be when you achieve your goal, while thinking realistically about whati it will take to get there. Oettinggen refers to this as mental constrasting— first you image attaining your goal, and then you reflect on the obstacles that stands in the way. If you want to get a high-paying job after college, start by imagining yourself accepting an offer at a top firm, and then think about what stands between you and that offer-namely,all the other really outstanding candidates that will be applying for jobs. Kind of makes you want to send outa lot of applications, dosen't it? That's called feeling the necessity to act—it‘s a psychological state that is crucial for achieving a goal.
用毛爷爷的话来说,“前途是光明的,道路是曲折的。”
回应 2017-05-03 16:29
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ShirelleYZ (面朝大海,春暖花开。)
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ShirelleYZ (面朝大海,春暖花开。)
1.Asking for a great performance from someone,and as long as you're specific about what great is, you are much more likely to actually get it; 2.high performance cycle---job satisfaction increases people's commitment to their organization and confidence in themselves,which leads them to challenge themselves more,which leads to better performance and more satisfaction,and so on and so on.... 3.Y...2016-11-19 15:36
1.Asking for a great performance from someone,and as long as you're specific about what great is, you are much more likely to actually get it;2.high performance cycle---job satisfaction increases people's commitment to their organization and confidence in themselves,which leads them to challenge themselves more,which leads to better performance and more satisfaction,and so on and so on....3.You too can start this cycle in your own life-the first step is to set yourself some very specific and reasonably difficult goals.And you can further enhance your chances for success by thinking about those goals in the most motivating ways.回应 2016-11-19 15:36 -
内存再大,贤者时间还是要有的!! “Depletion is only temporary, and you are most vulnerable immediately after you’ve used up your self-control reserves.”
2016-11-11 15:37
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Regeneration (俱懷逸興壯思飛,欲上青天攬明月)
1. specific and difficult but possible goal 2. "big picture" (why) v.s. "nitty-gritty" (what) - get up early; - be a early-riser, work more, healthy, show my self-displine; - write the lit review; work on the network formation; - sit down and start typing, write down the first sentence, first paragraph to get something to revise; work on the first theorem or example. 3. Time in the why-what tr...2017-05-22 21:31
1. specific and difficult but possible goal
2. "big picture" (why) v.s. "nitty-gritty" (what)
- get up early;
- be a early-riser, work more, healthy, show my self-displine;
- write the lit review; work on the network formation;
- sit down and start typing, write down the first sentence, first paragraph to get something to revise; work on the first theorem or example.
3. Time in the why-what trade-off
4. Positive thinking: believe that you can do it and that the road will be rocky.
回应 2017-05-22 21:31 -
we work best when as much of what we are doing can be delegated to the unconscious mind as possible. And typically, the more we do something, the more automatic it becomes—the more it is controlled by our uncouscious thought. Delegating goal pursuit to the unconscious parts of the mind is a great way to free up mental space and energy for all the things that constantly require your attention. ...
2017-05-03 18:02
we work best when as much of what we are doing can be delegated to the unconscious mind as possible. And typically, the more we do something, the more automatic it becomes—the more it is controlled by our uncouscious thought.
Delegating goal pursuit to the unconscious parts of the mind is a great way to free up mental space and energy for all the things that constantly require your attention.
把一个行为或一件事反复练习,养成习惯,直至把这些行为内化成“潜意识”,这样会大量节省willpower or control of self。
之后再不断更新习惯。
回应 2017-05-03 18:02 -
Then what is the best way to set goals so that you will reach them, without getting stuck daydreaming? The optimal strategy to use when setting a goal seems to be to think positively about how it will be when you achieve your goal, while thinking realistically about whati it will take to get there. Oettinggen refers to this as mental constrasting— first you image attaining your goal, and then ...
2017-05-03 16:29
Then what is the best way to set goals so that you will reach them, without getting stuck daydreaming? The optimal strategy to use when setting a goal seems to be to think positively about how it will be when you achieve your goal, while thinking realistically about whati it will take to get there. Oettinggen refers to this as mental constrasting— first you image attaining your goal, and then you reflect on the obstacles that stands in the way. If you want to get a high-paying job after college, start by imagining yourself accepting an offer at a top firm, and then think about what stands between you and that offer-namely,all the other really outstanding candidates that will be applying for jobs. Kind of makes you want to send outa lot of applications, dosen't it? That's called feeling the necessity to act—it‘s a psychological state that is crucial for achieving a goal.
用毛爷爷的话来说,“前途是光明的,道路是曲折的。”
回应 2017-05-03 16:29 -
01-29 Succeed 书摘 上回说到,我们要如何确定目标,不要用“做到最好”这样比较泛泛的目标,要确立具体的足够困难且合理的目标;建立高效能循环。 今天想跟大家分享的是两个值得思考的点: 一、 为什么做vs.去做什么Why vs. What 二、 期限长短(deadline)对人思考和 决定的影响 一、 为什么做vs.去做什么 Why vs. What 同一个目标或者行为,我们既可以粗犷地描述(Big Picture)也可以具体地描述(Nitty-Gritty)...
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01-29 Succeed 书摘上回说到,我们要如何确定目标,不要用“做到最好”这样比较泛泛的目标,要确立具体的足够困难且合理的目标;建立高效能循环。今天想跟大家分享的是两个值得思考的点:一、 为什么做vs.去做什么Why vs. What二、 期限长短(deadline)对人思考和决定的影响一、 为什么做vs.去做什么Why vs. What同一个目标或者行为,我们既可以粗犷地描述(Big Picture)也可以具体地描述(Nitty-Gritty)。我们来举个栗子说明一下这二者的区别。比如在做设计作业的时候,同样是“学好设计”这个目标,“我要做一个很厉害的方案”就是大体上的描述,“明天要给老师看3个材质的模型”就是具体的描述。再比如同样是“保持身体健康”,“健康饮食,早睡早起,多多运动”就是大体上的描述;“每晚七点后不进食,十一点一熄灯就睡觉,每周三次有氧运动”这是相对具体的描述。这其实是两种思考方式的差别,即Why型和What型。这两种思考方式都是准确无误的,没有对错之分,但确实不同,适用条件不同。 Why型思考更容易让人坚持,比如在高中的时候,总是会想“上了大学就解放了呀!”所以苦点儿累点儿也心甘情愿。不过对于那些困难复杂,而且我们不熟悉的陌生领域,What则更有优势。在完成一些困难的事情的时候,我们会本能地更倾向于聚焦于“具体行为”,而不是“意义”。搬家的时候,搬一个巨沉的柜子的时候,我们更多的是在想“把柜子倾斜一下,从下边抬起来,慢慢走,别嗑到墙”这些具体的行为,而不会想“我在创造一个更好的环境”。但是,在我看来,有的时候聚焦于具体行为,反而会看不到问题的本质和其背后的意义,比如那个老套的职场故事,老板跟A说要办年终晚会,打算买点儿苹果,让他去问问价钱,A飞快的问完之后告诉了上级,然后老板把同样的事安排给了B,过了一会儿B回来之后说:“苹果价钱是XX,香蕉和梨的价钱我也问了一下,是XX,如果买够多少多少,还能给优惠,如果不方便的话,还可以多加XX钱包送,另外,我觉得晚会的话,可以搞一个水果拼盘大赛,比单纯的吃水果形式更好,也很有乐趣……”B的思考方式是从目的出发的,(为什么要买水果?买水果是为了晚会更好,既然是为了让晚会更好,那么只买苹果显然不够吧?做个水果游戏会不会让晚会效果更好呢?) A不被比下去,就是对B死去脑细胞的亵渎了。但是另一方面来讲,What式思维更有助于提高行动速度,且在目标困难的时候,能提高行动效率。(在前途不明确的时候,what式的具体的没头苍蝇一样的尝试会比想很多意义更有效,但是随着获得的信息越来越多,越来越熟练,就要更多地考虑why式方向与目的层面的问题,否则就可能南辕北辙,做无用功。)二、 期限长短(deadline)对人思考和决定的影响距离实际执行的日期长短也是影响我们选用Why或是What模式的一个重要因素。举个很常见的例子来说,大家刚来大学的时候都会说,“我本来是打算上XX大学的,到了高三才发现,还是现实一点,上个XXXX大学吧”最开始的时候,离deadline还很远的时候,人会更常见的设立“高期望的目标”,随着deadline的临近,我们会更倾向于调整为“高可能性的目标”。这就是deadline对我们思考模式和决定的影响。书中提到一个小技巧还是很实用的,就是用一个月之后的视角来看待当下的行为。比如复习周的时候,我不想复习,就会想等我放假了,就没人管了哈哈哈,现在累一点儿也就累这一周,但是回家能耍一个月,就会多一点儿复习的动力。另外,如果同学你更经常被拖延症困扰的话,What模式可能是一剂良药,书中提到了一个实验,两组本科生,之前进行了不同思维模式的引导,一组不断强化Why的思考模式,让他们写出10个类似于“新创一个银行账户”“写日记”,并写出每个行为的意义;另一组则是让写出这十件事都怎么做。在这之后,要求两组人员回去完成一份电子问卷并在三周内给予email反馈,最终发现what式的人员回复速度比why式人员平均提早10天甚至两周。所以“拖延症”并不只是行为习惯的原因,背后更是思维习惯的原因。集中注意力在具体的行为上,多考虑“花几步才能把大象装进冰箱”,而不是想“大象TMD怎么能装进冰箱?!”,能够帮助你更快的完成任务,向万恶的拖延症说再见!最后还有两种思维方式的适用情况表格回应 2017-01-29 21:37
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0 有用 伽南 2018-12-31
Worth rereading. It's one of the best books i have read this year. I highly recommend it. It's a must read book.
4 有用 容懂 2011-11-15
If only all the self-help books could be as well-researched and concisely written as this one. And, if only all the research papers could carry so much relevancy and practical implication.
5 有用 欧阳 2013-11-30
写作引用参考。杰作。通俗易懂。串联了自我决定论、执行意图、mindset等一大堆知识。
0 有用 jessieyannnnn 2017-05-04
very enjoyable reading!把书比作一颗书的话,那这本书就是树根深扎大地,树干挺拔粗壮,树枝有序伸展的一棵树。结构清晰、实验论证说服力强、还有行动指南。五星
1 有用 Jule 2012-04-24
Time to read it again
0 有用 cobblest 2019-02-16
很久不读老本行的书,读来十分酣畅淋漓。动机理论,自我决定论总结应该秒杀市面上各种成功学书籍。
0 有用 若逝离晨 2018-10-17
表现型目标&进步型目标
0 有用 伽南 2018-12-31
Worth rereading. It's one of the best books i have read this year. I highly recommend it. It's a must read book.
0 有用 jenesaispas 2018-04-26
research-supported and easy to read. Make plans!
0 有用 poco 2018-03-19
目标的分类,训练自制力,实现目标的方法参考心里对照,关联感,自主权,胜任力是达成目标带来的快感