Women in today’s advanced capitalist societies are encouraged to “lean in.” The media and government champion women’s empowerment. In a cultural climate where women can seemingly have it all, why do so many successful professional women―lawyers, financial managers, teachers, engineers, and others―give up their careers after having children and become stay-at-home mothers? How d...
Women in today’s advanced capitalist societies are encouraged to “lean in.” The media and government champion women’s empowerment. In a cultural climate where women can seemingly have it all, why do so many successful professional women―lawyers, financial managers, teachers, engineers, and others―give up their careers after having children and become stay-at-home mothers? How do they feel about their decision and what do their stories tell us about contemporary society?
Heading Home reveals the stark gap between the promise of gender equality and women’s experience of continued injustice. Shani Orgad draws on in-depth, personal, and profoundly ambivalent interviews with highly educated London women who left paid employment to take care of their children while their husbands continued to work in high-powered jobs. Despite identifying the structural forces that maintain gender inequality, these women still struggle to articulate their decisions outside the narrow cultural ideals that devalue motherhood and individualize success and failure. Orgad juxtaposes these stories with media and policy depictions of women, work, and family, detailing how―even as their experiences fly in the face of fantasies of work-life balance and marriage as an egalitarian partnership―these women continue to interpret and judge themselves according to the ideals that are failing them. Rather than calling for women to transform their feelings and behavior, Heading Home argues that we must unmute and amplify women’s desire, disappointment, and rage, and demand social infrastructure that will bring about long-overdue equality both at work and at home.
Shani Orgad is associate professor in the Department of Media and Communications at the London School of Economics and Political Science. She is the author of Storytelling Online: Talking Breast Cancer on the Internet (2005), Media Representation and the Global Imagination (2012), and Caring in Crisis? Humanitarianism, the Public and NGOs (2017, with Bruna Seu).
目录
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Preface and Acknowledgements
Abbreviations
Introduction
Part I: Heading Home: Forced Choices
1. Choice and Confidence Culture/Toxic Work Culture
2. The Balanced Woman/Unequal Homes
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Preface and Acknowledgements
Abbreviations
Introduction
Part I: Heading Home: Forced Choices
1. Choice and Confidence Culture/Toxic Work Culture
2. The Balanced Woman/Unequal Homes
Part II: Heading the Home: The Personal Consequences of Forced Choices
3. Cupcake Mom/Family CEO
4. Aberrant Mothers/Captive Wives
Part III: Heading Where? Curbed Desires
5. The Mompreneur/Inarticulate Desire
6. Inevitable Change/Invisible Chains
Conclusion: Impatience
Appendix 1: Interviewees’ Key Characteristics
Appendix 2: List of Media and Policy Representations
Appendix 3: Study Methodology
Appendix 4: Characteristics of UK Stay-at-Home Mothers
Notes
Index
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Choices are always made under constraints. 社会一方面宣扬女性可以事业家庭have it all, 一方面把家务与育儿的责任默认给女性，还去责怪家庭妇女没有做出社会贡献；出自己的一份力改变这一不公，从拒绝认同有毒的work culture、家务共同分工、以及不要被社会宣传中的完美女性形象洗脑。
“the compelling narrative of the individual’s capacity to achieve equality and success ignites a sense of possibility, drawing these women to desire equality and success while impeding their tackling...
“the compelling narrative of the individual’s capacity to achieve equality and success ignites a sense of possibility, drawing these women to desire equality and success while impeding their tackling the structural issues that obstruct the realization of this desire.”
但这个书吧有点冗长，有些地方overlap，重复叙述较多，而且没有解决我现在的问题给我太多新启发。(展开)
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0 有用 Vera.W 2023-04-16 15:30:54 英国
Choices are always made under constraints. 社会一方面宣扬女性可以事业家庭have it all, 一方面把家务与育儿的责任默认给女性，还去责怪家庭妇女没有做出社会贡献；出自己的一份力改变这一不公，从拒绝认同有毒的work culture、家务共同分工、以及不要被社会宣传中的完美女性形象洗脑。
0 有用 Budesonide 2023-09-15 20:49:11 荷兰
母职惩罚是一个结构性问题，光靠个人的力量没法解决。如果熟知女权理论的话这书有点冗长。
0 有用 xishuxishu 2022-05-09 21:08:08
Better than Opting Out. money与care的关系/the making of mompreneur格外有意思。就是觉得不断cue Berlant好像并没有达到想要的效果（但说起来，怎么用cruel optimism这个概念才是有力的呢）
0 有用 辛维木 2022-01-08 08:06:47
An update to Betty Friedan. 唉我一直有一个梦想是生了孩子后辞职回家带娃写小说做翻译，但现在看来还是乖乖去上班吧……
0 有用 feippp 2024-02-21 19:22:08 上海
冷静的分析中不乏锋利和愤怒 能把采访研究琢磨分析到这地步 真不愧是社会学家 观察细腻 表达精准 让我时不时读着兴奋到想回去再读个研啥的（当然不会） 在这之前因为接连读了Regretting Motherhood和The Second Shift 所以读下来非常通畅
0 有用 feippp 2024-02-21 19:22:08 上海
冷静的分析中不乏锋利和愤怒 能把采访研究琢磨分析到这地步 真不愧是社会学家 观察细腻 表达精准 让我时不时读着兴奋到想回去再读个研啥的（当然不会） 在这之前因为接连读了Regretting Motherhood和The Second Shift 所以读下来非常通畅
0 有用 ☀️小羊 2023-10-22 22:11:00 北京
“the compelling narrative of the individual’s capacity to achieve equality and success ignites a sense of possibility, drawing these women to desire equality and success while impeding their tackling... “the compelling narrative of the individual’s capacity to achieve equality and success ignites a sense of possibility, drawing these women to desire equality and success while impeding their tackling the structural issues that obstruct the realization of this desire.” 但这个书吧有点冗长，有些地方overlap，重复叙述较多，而且没有解决我现在的问题给我太多新启发。 (展开)
0 有用 Budesonide 2023-09-15 20:49:11 荷兰
母职惩罚是一个结构性问题，光靠个人的力量没法解决。如果熟知女权理论的话这书有点冗长。
0 有用 oneinchcloser 2023-06-30 22:18:53 广东
母职惩罚
0 有用 若鱼爱吃鱼 2023-04-30 09:21:07 美国
生育之后回归家庭看似是选择，其实是结构性压迫的结果，这种压迫如此广泛而深入，已经渗入到社会肌理化为无形。受过高等教育的成功职业女性尚且不能分辨，更何况更弱势的群体。中国的规训更直接：“点背不能怪社会” --怎么能不怪社会？？都怪有毒的职场环境，高压，死板，歧视，逼你回家；怪自相矛盾的社会舆论，要你当慈母全职陪伴孩子，还嫌你不做paid work不是有用的螺丝钉；怪这个社会深入骨髓的父权思想，当然是... 生育之后回归家庭看似是选择，其实是结构性压迫的结果，这种压迫如此广泛而深入，已经渗入到社会肌理化为无形。受过高等教育的成功职业女性尚且不能分辨，更何况更弱势的群体。中国的规训更直接：“点背不能怪社会” --怎么能不怪社会？？都怪有毒的职场环境，高压，死板，歧视，逼你回家；怪自相矛盾的社会舆论，要你当慈母全职陪伴孩子，还嫌你不做paid work不是有用的螺丝钉；怪这个社会深入骨髓的父权思想，当然是女主内男主外，当然是越来越好我们不用再努力推动社会进步啦。有些选择只是幻象，离开paid work，即使是三十多岁就当上科技公司COO的精英全职妈妈都再也回不去职场。 (展开)