One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but.
One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but.
As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients' lives -- a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can't stop hooking up with the wrong guys -- she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell.
With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change.
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is revolutionary in its candor, offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly revealing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them.
Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author who writes The Atlantic's weekly "Dear Therapist" advice column. A contributing editor at The Atlantic, she also writes regularly for The New York Times, and has appeared on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, CNN, and NPR. Learn more at LoriGottlieb.com or by following her @LoriGottlie...
Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author who writes The Atlantic's weekly "Dear Therapist" advice column. A contributing editor at The Atlantic, she also writes regularly for The New York Times, and has appeared on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, CNN, and NPR. Learn more at LoriGottlieb.com or by following her @LoriGottlieb1 on Twitter.
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喜怒哀乐感人肺腑智慧有趣全在这一本里了 读的过程中几度需要停下来 抱着一些过去跳悲伤的舞蹈。。but there’s always a way out if you’re willing to see it. 人间太值得 也是可以帮我磨掉一点点the bad rough edges的书 somewhat和父母的关系上 if they are not gonna change, why not me...喜怒哀乐感人肺腑智慧有趣全在这一本里了 读的过程中几度需要停下来 抱着一些过去跳悲伤的舞蹈。。but there’s always a way out if you’re willing to see it. 人间太值得 也是可以帮我磨掉一点点the bad rough edges的书 somewhat和父母的关系上 if they are not gonna change, why not me? p.s. 有人和我一样推测John的那个show是Bojack Horseman嘛(展开)
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What a fantastic book! I will have a deeper experience with the remaining of my life by acknowledging my humane parts. We need to find our own way to feel safe in an uncertain world and to connect. Wh...What a fantastic book! I will have a deeper experience with the remaining of my life by acknowledging my humane parts. We need to find our own way to feel safe in an uncertain world and to connect. When choosing a partner, don’t choose the familiarity, choose what makes you REALLY happy, choose who can go through the rupture and repair with you. (展开)
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3 有用 逆铭睡眼惺忪地 2020-01-01 19:21:24
诚然,困苦大都源于自己在心中画地为牢。然而唯有自我改变才能走出这自设的牢狱,又不是那么简单的事了。新的十年,无论面对何种境况,愿我们都能坚持选择一己态度的自由。
60 有用 ZZ 2019-07-21 05:17:16
看完這本书,真的很希望去找一个therapist了。书中解释了counseling和therapy的不同,前者是给出建议,后者是了解/理解自己。作者讲述了自己找心理咨询师的过程以及自己作为心理咨询师为自己的病人作出的咨询的过程。两类经历都非常感人,因为真实。心理学真是很有趣,了解/理解自己是一回事,而从语言文字到行为的飞跃,那又是另一种体验。4年後又看了一遍,感覺收穫更多,主要來自對自己的瞭解又深... 看完這本书,真的很希望去找一个therapist了。书中解释了counseling和therapy的不同,前者是给出建议,后者是了解/理解自己。作者讲述了自己找心理咨询师的过程以及自己作为心理咨询师为自己的病人作出的咨询的过程。两类经历都非常感人,因为真实。心理学真是很有趣,了解/理解自己是一回事,而从语言文字到行为的飞跃,那又是另一种体验。4年後又看了一遍,感覺收穫更多,主要來自對自己的瞭解又深了一步,遠了一步。自我成長從自我認知開始。邁出了第一步,那麽就要勇敢地走下去。 (展开)
4 有用 JuJube 2019-10-03 21:12:01
喜怒哀乐感人肺腑智慧有趣全在这一本里了 读的过程中几度需要停下来 抱着一些过去跳悲伤的舞蹈。。but there’s always a way out if you’re willing to see it. 人间太值得 也是可以帮我磨掉一点点the bad rough edges的书 somewhat和父母的关系上 if they are not gonna change, why not me... 喜怒哀乐感人肺腑智慧有趣全在这一本里了 读的过程中几度需要停下来 抱着一些过去跳悲伤的舞蹈。。but there’s always a way out if you’re willing to see it. 人间太值得 也是可以帮我磨掉一点点the bad rough edges的书 somewhat和父母的关系上 if they are not gonna change, why not me? p.s. 有人和我一样推测John的那个show是Bojack Horseman嘛 (展开)
81 有用 Ann 2019-07-29 10:17:32
对比同期读的brene brown,这本书节奏要慢很多也沉重一些,尤其开头觉得这样的人怎么可以是therapist呢?可是慢慢读下去越来越有共鸣和收获,就像作者一样,层层拨开的故事走进每个人的生活,也体会到时间和努力所带来的改变。有句话说的好:the nature of life is change and the nature of people is to resist change. ,
4 有用 papi姐姐 2020-04-25 17:26:58
What a fantastic book! I will have a deeper experience with the remaining of my life by acknowledging my humane parts. We need to find our own way to feel safe in an uncertain world and to connect. Wh... What a fantastic book! I will have a deeper experience with the remaining of my life by acknowledging my humane parts. We need to find our own way to feel safe in an uncertain world and to connect. When choosing a partner, don’t choose the familiarity, choose what makes you REALLY happy, choose who can go through the rupture and repair with you. (展开)