作者:
Amir Levine
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Rachel Heller 出版社: TarcherPerigee 副标题: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love 出版年: 2012-1-5 页数: 304 定价: USD 15.95 装帧: Paperback ISBN: 9781585429134
We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes." In "Attached," Levine...
We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes." In "Attached," Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
*Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
*Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
*Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
作者简介
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Amir Levine, M.D. is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He graduated from the residency program at New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University and for the past few years Amir has been conducting neuroscience research at Columbia under the mentorship of Nobel Prize Laureate Eric Kandel. Amir also has a passion for working with patients and it...
Amir Levine, M.D. is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He graduated from the residency program at New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University and for the past few years Amir has been conducting neuroscience research at Columbia under the mentorship of Nobel Prize Laureate Eric Kandel. Amir also has a passion for working with patients and it is in this context, while working with mothers and children in a therapeutic nursery, that he first discovered the power of attachment theory. His clinical work together with his deep understanding of the brain from a neuroscientist's perspective contribute to his appreciation of attachment theory and its remarkable effectiveness in helping to heal patients. Amir lives in New York City. Rachel Heller, M.A. studied at Columbia University with some of the most prominent scholars in the field of social psychology. She now works with families and couples as a psychologist in private practice. Rachel lives in Israel.
7/22/2020尝试读+弃，6/27-6/30/2021）很棒的书！！绝佳！醍醐灌顶！还好2020年我没读，当时的context下读肯定没有现在读好，the timing is right! Be true to yourself and be clear about ur needs. Those who can’t meet u there are just not the right ty...7/22/2020尝试读+弃，6/27-6/30/2021）很棒的书！！绝佳！醍醐灌顶！还好2020年我没读，当时的context下读肯定没有现在读好，the timing is right! Be true to yourself and be clear about ur needs. Those who can’t meet u there are just not the right type. Not to return tit for tat but focus on the problem at hand applies everywhere.(展开)
from Emma Chamberlain's podcast. 絮絮叨叨很多，并且很多地方充满偏见。avoidant attachment 人看了很难不怀疑自己，这本书充满对此类人群的左撇子式歧视。从实用指导意义来看，适用于 anxious attachment 人群给自己一些提示建议，对其他类型来说基本浪费时间摄入偏见。
Attachment styles Secure: comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving Anxious: crave intimacy, are often preoccupied with their relationships, and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back Avoidant: equate intimacy with a ...
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0 有用 Lucia 2016-07-07 10:24:23
yea... definitely an avoidant :/ puppy on the other hand, is so secure. learn from him.
2 有用 笑一步是好青年 2021-06-30 18:28:15
7/22/2020尝试读+弃，6/27-6/30/2021）很棒的书！！绝佳！醍醐灌顶！还好2020年我没读，当时的context下读肯定没有现在读好，the timing is right! Be true to yourself and be clear about ur needs. Those who can’t meet u there are just not the right ty... 7/22/2020尝试读+弃，6/27-6/30/2021）很棒的书！！绝佳！醍醐灌顶！还好2020年我没读，当时的context下读肯定没有现在读好，the timing is right! Be true to yourself and be clear about ur needs. Those who can’t meet u there are just not the right type. Not to return tit for tat but focus on the problem at hand applies everywhere. (展开)
3 有用 愚公移书 2014-07-30 00:06:30
心理类书籍一大作用便是帮助人们了解自己了解他人，很多时候问题都在于并不理解对方的行为、出发点、心理过程，多一份理解或许就是多一份包容的可能，倒也并不一定就是为了解决问题。况且很多时候问题其实就只是：你不理解我我不理解你，不是我不想理解你而是我不知道怎么用我自己的方式角度来理解你。
0 有用 蝉 2013-12-14 19:38:05
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8 有用 逆光 2018-11-20 09:58:33
确实写得非常易读。观念上完全无法想象大多数人是secure型…
0 有用 一鹿小跑 2024-11-11 16:37:44 美国
挺推荐的，是一本实践类型的关于亲密关系的心理学书籍。中文版叫《读懂恋人心》有点土的名字。 BF两年前盛情推荐，我一直以为是原生家庭影响类型的书不愿意读，最近才有兴趣认真地读完了。然后双方进行了快速而深刻地讨论，是有帮助的，基本上以后再讨论矛盾应该可以在一个语境下讨论。So，书里建议搞清楚你伴侣的依恋类型，然后要么好好经营要么及时换人。反正这本书就是以后处理亲密关系问题的bible了。
0 有用 Mmw 2024-11-11 11:47:55 北京
好看，亲密关系入门书籍，对于了解自己非常有帮助，让我对安全型焦虑型回避型有了整体的概念区分，在了解这本书之前，已经发现了自己和一位我很认可的朋友的思考模式和应对方式的不同，果然在书里得到了验证和更深入的理解、感谢作者
0 有用 躺读者Antares 2024-10-29 04:49:38 澳大利亚
大概在同类书中比较大众和入门，每个人都应该读一读，可以更好的认识自己和理解他人。说有50％是安全型依恋我是不信的，可能美国有吧，我国感觉安全型是少数。尤其看好多情感博主聊的大多就只是针对焦虑和回避，仿佛不存在安全型（要知道安全型也会有情感问题）。
0 有用 拾荒小泥子 2024-10-04 10:05:01 美国
浅 这书的reference 还没个硕士论文长
0 有用 Pomme 2024-09-25 16:32:56 湖南
from Emma Chamberlain's podcast. 絮絮叨叨很多，并且很多地方充满偏见。avoidant attachment 人看了很难不怀疑自己，这本书充满对此类人群的左撇子式歧视。从实用指导意义来看，适用于 anxious attachment 人群给自己一些提示建议，对其他类型来说基本浪费时间摄入偏见。